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writes:Hi I'm having a big problem...I'm going to an auto motive school and after ig graduate I want to join the marines, but my girl friend dosent want me 2. She said that she will stay with me and supposrt me but I don't kno wat 2 do??? Reply to this Question
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reader, 123kay  +, writes (20 May 2008):
This is not going to be easy for you. my boyfriend starts his recruit training for the marines at the beginning of June. I never encouraged him. But i understand this is his decision and i cant choose for him. I no it will be hard, but i no for sure it will be ten times harder for him, so my job will be complete support and this is what your girlfriend needs to understand there are many days you wont see each other but if you a strong and support each other you will have many more days together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): My boyfriend is in the Marine's and going to Afghanistan in September. I love him so much, but he was in the marines before I met him. If he wasn't then I'm not sure I would have encouraged him to, however, he loves his job, and is doing something so special. Marine's are very spcial guys and if it is what you want to do then go for it, it isn't easy as a girlfriend, but if she loves you she will support you, even if that means giving eveyrthing you have for your country!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): i would join the marines man. its the best thing to do it will be hard but its gonna be fun. my gf said that if i join the marines that shes gonna break up with me well i broke up with her first. im only a junior in high school and i cant wait til i join its been my goal since i was a freshman
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007): if i were you i would do it. it will be hard and yes you can get shiped over seas. shes will just hafe to be strong and trust that they will train you well. my bf is a united states Marine it was hard not having him around but it was better for the both of us. If your girl truly loves you she will not leave you if you join and she will support you all the way. if she dosent she might not be all that worth it. Just rember that what ever choice you make can last a life time. If every guy dident join that had their gilfriends tell them not to we would a much smaller military.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): I understand your girlfriends pain. I am a USMC girlfriend and my bf is deployed right now. I can tell you that going through a deployment it hard and I am sure she is worried about your safety. I agree that you have to make sure you consider exactly what you are getting yourself into. Maybe you should consider going to school and when you are finished if you still want to be a USMC then join.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): I agree with duce. I don't agree with this war either. If you do go, I think you are going to look back on it many years from today and feel very exploited. It is not the right time to serve your country. There is a lot of politics going on that is very sketchy. In fact, I say, if you REALLY want to serve your country, DON'T go to war. Not this war anyways and not under this administration. My ex bf served time in Iraq about 15 yrs ago for desert storm. The things he saw, even back then, and the way the army treated soldiers, he thought was just ridiculous. They often don't even train you properly and just throw you into situations out of necessity. He saw people DIE because of this. You are just a pawn. Nothing more. But it all depends what is more important to you. Your girl or joining the marines.
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reader, duce00 +, writes (31 August 2007):
 Serving your country is a big decision. The Marines is one of the most combat oriented branches of the military as you probably know. You can be guaranteed that you will serve serious time in Iraq and you will see some serious shit. If that is what you want I understand. Many here wouldnt, but I do.I got out of the Navy when I became a single father 4yrs ago and luckily I wasnt getting deployed because I was reserve. Honestly Im glad Im not in right now. Its more than the worry of harm, I basically think that this war has become a complete cluster fuck. Sure I think that the lives lost and the effort we are doing will pay off one day, but its become like Vietnam and the politicians are running aroung wringing theyre hands and basically making it worse for the guys in the feild. Vets are coming back and getting less than adequite medical. Im frankly a little pissed at how the military in general is being treated right now. But I probably should get away from politics and back to your question (ahhem stepping off soap box now)Your girlfriend is right to be concerned. If you are serious about this I strongly suggest you dont get married and be prepaired that she will lose faith in your decision. Check into the divorce rate in the military if you like. That doesnt even include infidelity. We all know that it goes on and everybody thinks it couldnt happen to them but being away from her husband for over a year does funny things to a wife (or husbands as the case may be).I understand the desire to serve your country and be a part of a really great brotherhood. Its a very strong calling. But, if your girl is worth marrying Id stick with the blue collar life. Then again if you think your going to end up single anyways and the desire to serve is very strong then take that road with your eyes wide open, your head on the swivel and a dammed good life insurance policy which includes accidental dis-memberment (Im not joking either). Both lives can be fulfilling choose the one that will bring you long term happiness.
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reader, Escalaya +, writes (31 August 2007):
 there's no clear answer as to what you "should" do.However keep in mind when you join the marines you potentially: -Will be deployed-Will go to Iraq-Will leave your girlfriend, family, and friends behind for a while-Could possibly never come back.Think of what you're leaving behind, and what you're gaining. If you really wish to join the Marines, I say go for it. However, don't forget there's someone waiting for you, always afraid that they'll wait in vain. Best of luck on your decision.
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reader, penta +, writes (31 August 2007):
 She is concerned that you'll be sent to Iraq, which is a really dangerous place right now. She's afraid you'll be killed, or hurt badly. And she doesn't want the separation. Of course she doesn't want you to go. Why do you want to go?
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