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writes:Hi everyone,I'm due to go to a halloween party next Saturday down my local pub and everyone says I'm still welcome to go, the only problam is my recently ex and his new gf will be there too, I was meant to be going with him but then things have changed at the moment I'm just going on my own and I've been told I'm able to go and sit with my ex's sister if I wanted to. I've text many of my mates who all have something to go to already and none of them invited me, I don't want to stay at home that nite, I would really like to go to this party but will probably get evil looks all nite from his new gf. It's a public place so anyone can goAny advice with what I can do?xx
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reader, sadie30 +, writes (24 October 2008):
you go and keep your head held high, maybe take a friend with you, dont try to speak to him let him come to you, otherwise enjoy your night xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): You don't have to look around and be concerned about who is there or who is attending, neither do you need approval from your ex or his girlfriend.
Lift our head high, be yourself and go!
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (24 October 2008):
 Back in the summer I asked a barmaid out who works in my local, she rejected me and it turned a bit hostile.
At first I thought I would have to avoid the pub, because it would be really awkward for both of us, then I realised that I hadn't actually done anything wrong, so why should I stay away and miss my other friends who go down there.
Just ignore him and his new GF, I know it will be hard, but you will feel so much better for it. Talk to the other people you know down there and just have a good time, pretend your ex isn't even in the same building.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (24 October 2008):
 I agree with qcumbr1 in as much as you shouldn't feel like you have to stay away from this halloween party, it is in a public place and therefore you have as much right to be there as the next person.
Who ended the relationship btw? I am guessing your ex?
Why should his new gf feel bitterness towards you if anything it would be the other way round.
Go with your head held high and dress to kill so that you don't look like the sad ex.
I would say that if you can even get a family member or work colleague to go with you it would be better than going on your own and definitely keep away from your ex's sister unless she comes over to you to talk to you.
If your friend's are real friends one of them will go with you I would have thought.
Even if you go and want to leave early, at least you have shown your face and who knows you may have the time of your life. It is always hard to go to things on your own but in the end you do get over it and in my case I always have a great time.
Stay strong and positive and good luck.
Keep us posted eh!
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): Your ex's new girl is probably telling him she's unhappy about going because you'll be there!
But if they are there, so what? Treat them the same as any other person in the pub - friendly, with no snarling glances, even if you feel a bit down, don't let on and enjoy your night out. Make conversation with other people, don't just sit in a corner looking glum, and people will respond to your friendly manner. Whatever you do don't have too much to drink and make a fool of yourself. Stay in control.
Life is too short to be worrying about exes and their girlfriends!
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