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writes:well heres the thing.i'm 14.iv'e split up with my boyfriend about a month ago now. but i still love him very much. lately he's started speaking to me again like how things used to be. i asked him what he wanted for his birthday and his answer was money at first. then wev'e become closer again and the whole loosing my virginity popped up. he then said do you want me to take it? i said yeah and i don't regret saying it because he's not the type pf person to tell anyone about anything cause iv'e known him for along time really. but when i told my friends about it they said he's just using you. i asked him and he said that he still loved me alot. i believe him. and i do want to loose my virginity to him cause i feel it's right. but i would just like a second opinion before i do so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2007): DON'T DO IT!!Of course he is saying he still loves you!! He's hardly going to say "hey honey, I just want to get my rocks off, and i'll dump you straight after i've had what i want" is he?? He'll say whatever it takes, he's only after one thing. He dumped you, and sorry to be cruel, but if nothing better has come along he just wants a bit of action. By the sound of things he's a loser woth only his intentions at heart.
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reader, daglish  +, writes (25 July 2007):
 well to be frank, i dont think its a bright idea to even think of giving away your virginity b4 u are married.. It dont matter whether u love this guy or not, it jst aint right..If he really needs to scratch you this early then am afraid he's gonna dump you as soon as he knows what u taste like.. If u must know, a guy who really loves will stick around for as long as he can to enjoy whats under that panties so the longer u keep him waiting: perhaps up to marriage, the more sweeter the harvest will be for both of you.
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reader, josiedoc +, writes (24 July 2007):
 Please don't give your virginity to this boy, if he cares for you then he'd wait untill you were 16, this is the legal age. If you stay together till then, then why not lose your virginity then but whatever you decide make sure you use a condom what ever age you are.
Take care
Josie x
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reader, fred flintstone  +, writes (23 July 2007):
if you must loose it i guess your ok with your x but make sure you are ready and have him wear protection.. i suggest you being on top the first time..
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 July 2007):
 In all fairness, Cherz, shouldn't you also mention that you are now also pregnant at 13? That may have a decided impact on the poster.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (23 July 2007):
 ok in my opinion like everyone else don't do it. he is using you and the fact that he knows you still like him, he is using that to get you to sleep with him, please don't do. here is a gift i would give him a slap round the face. you deserve someone so much better and the fact your 14 it will be against the law and there is a worth guy out there who you can lose it to just not yet and not that guy.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (23 July 2007):
 You know, dear, I kind of hate this guy for asking MONEY for a birthday present. I'm not sure if you have a similar saying in English, but, in Spanish, we always say that "intention is what counts". If you're offered a present, you usually will say "anything is fine". Now, his definition of "anything" really is something.
I am damned sure he's using you. You should not give him this "present". I fully agree with eyeswideopen: buy him a birthday card. If anything. I would stay away if I were you.
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reader, Cherz +, writes (23 July 2007):
Heya,
i am 13 i lost my virginaty a few years ago now to my currunt partner. and taking that step was the best thing!
Please just do 2 things for me.
Dont let him force you into it.
Please use a comdom
cherz
xx
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reader, flower girl +, writes (23 July 2007):
 I agree with eyeswideopen it's not a good idea, it also happens to be the stragest birthday present i have heard of.
If he wants to be with you for you then he will wait.
Take care.xx.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 July 2007):
If you need a second opinion then you know in your heart of hearts that it's a bad decision. Don't do it, you'll regret it for the rest of your life. Your virginity should never be a "birthday present' for crying out loud. Give him a card.
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reader, vicki-b +, writes (23 July 2007):
 i think he is only useing you darl your only 14 you should wait a while because if you do, do it you might regret it when you get older and your not legal yet so if i was you id wait and if he was only useing you like your friends say then you will regret it loads your still only young but that my opinion xx
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