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writes:Hello. I want to give my boyfriend a blowjob, but I can't, because he smells kinda bad down there. He's clean, he takes daily showers, but his penis still has some funny smell. I also tasted it once and I wanted to throw up - it was very salty. I just don't know what to do, I don't want to offend him and I really want to pleasure him. He's not forcing me into anything against my will, all we've done so far was me giving him handjobs (am him fingering me). What should do? Should I approach this subject with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks again for your answers!Well, since BJs are not necessary, I'll definitely skip this part. Because no matter how much he washed down there, his sperm still tastes gross, due to his diet - junk food + coke.
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reader, CANDY61 +, writes (9 February 2011):
I would have him to wash it off with Baking Soda, I bet that will get the job done because baking soda kills bad smells. I had a friend that took a shower every day but still had that bad under arm smell, the baking soda did the job. He can put baking soda in his bath water, showers are nice but a long hot bath is better.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (8 February 2011):
 Some guys just don't smell right. That said, some girls just can't take the smell no matter what a guy does.
Like someone else stated, are you sure that he washes his penis thoroughly when he showers? If he's uncircumcized, this includes pulling back the foreskin and washing the head. Also, is his underwear properly washed?
Apart from that, diet does contribute somewhat, but that's more to the taste of the cum than the penis itself.
Giving a BJ is definitely not an essential part of the sex act - though, if it happens right, it can be a very fun part of it. It's up to you, really. I wouldn't dream of letting a guy inside me if I hadn't tasted the goods first, but I'm very oral.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 February 2011):
 No, blowjobs are not essential before sex, they are an act in itself. For the penis to be erect, and the woman to be wet, is all that is necessary for intercourse.
But yes, it is not right that he goes down on you and you don't go down on him. You should talk to him about why you don't like to do it so he can understand and perhaps you can find a solution.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for your inputs. Yes, he showers daily, sometimes twice a day, but I guess you're right, it's the sweat over day or something. Maybe we chose the bad moment.
Anyway, I wanted to know something, I know it might sound silly: Does BJs are essential / necessary part before intercourse?
Because I'm uncomfortable with giving him one... He likes to go down on me, he likes the way I smell, he told me that, and it just makes me feel bad, like I owe him one as well. I'm ok with handjobs, even if the smell on my hand remains all day long, even after washing it. But I'm ok with it, I just love to see him ecstatic.
I also get very very wet down there, so there's no need for him to go down on me. I'll have to admit it feels amazing. But, by the time he takes off my panties, I'm already turned on and feel ready for sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): uh, take a shower with him and get him clean!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): I totally feel you.
Request that he rinse or take a shower together before sex.
Semen doesn't taste really great and it smells funny because it is basic. It smells a bit like a chlorinated swimming pool or an old foundtain.
To get around it, I usually lift my tongue right before he comes or put him in my cheek, so I don't have to taste it. Diet also does make a difference. I won't claim to be a jizz connoisseur, but the only guy who's jizz didn't bother me was a practical vegetarian and health nut. I'm thinking it wasn't a coincidence.
If you really can't deal with it, don't do it.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (8 February 2011):
Ask him to rinse beforehand to see if it helps. Even if he showers everyday he also wears boxers and jeans all day, and it gets sweaty and smelly down there. The salt is likely from sweat. The only proper and elegant way to do this is to rinse up before getting to the act. This counts for women as well as we can taste like pee down there unless we rinse!
So, be polite, rinse yourself before you ever let your boyfriend down on you. And then just tell him that he should try and rinse too, because you don't like the taste and rinsing might help out. It could be a bit embarrassing at first, but it's such a small thing. Like asking someone to put on a condom before sex, you can just as well ask someone to rinse before oral sex.
If he still smells it's likely just you who are extra sensitive to the scent.. which you're not alone about. It can smell pretty hefty. A scented soap could be the solution then. Sperm also tastes horrible (in my opinion), but just tell him to not come in your mouth, and avoid liking up the pre-cum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): how about using flavoured lube, infact regular lube tastes pretty good. After a minute or so the taste and smell really isn't very strong. But don't do anything you don't want to, giving a blowjob isn't a necessity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2011): Hey, I don't know what to say about the smell, but I would agree with dirt ball on that one. A for the taste, pineapple is the way forward. Seriously, if a man eats pineapple a lot in the space of a fe days, especially on the day of the oral sex, his come will taste nice. Honestly, I know how bad it can be at times, but from a woman myself I would definitely recommend him eating pineapple. And it tastes good too, so hopefully he won't object to it. Take one to his place, or have it in at yours ready for next time.
Good luck!
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reader, x.BrokenxHearts.x  +, writes (7 February 2011):
 I actually felt sick reading this lol as one of my exes tasted real bad too he didn't smell bad but the taste made me want to throw up, it was all down to his diet, like what he ate.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (7 February 2011):
 Maybe suggest a shower together as part of your foreplay. You can scrub each other to make sure you're nice and clean. Honestly, the taste will go away quickly enough once you start. The saliva will pretty much be the only thing you taste once you get it good and wet.
Most guys I know will do whatever you want if you're willing to give them a blowjob. If you want him to wash up first, I'm willing to bet he hops right to it. Even if he showers every morning, by the evening, things can get funky. Especially if he's active at all.
Tell him your concerns, and tell him you want to do it, but you need some help from him. Just be honest. Communication about such things is very important.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2011): hii...
okayy...i'm not trying to be rude or anything here...but are you absolutely SURE that he showers daily??? to be more specific, are you sure that he washes his man goods thoroughly??? i find it a little odd that you're able to smell him soo strongly; in my experience, it's never been that way. as for the salty taste, that probably just has something to do with his eating habits. i know that it will probably be really, really awkward, but my advice to you is to talk to him about this. sometimes, talking is the best thing you can do...and this situation is one of those times. just be as delicate about it as possible. i hope everything works out. ")
good luck, and God bless,
~sarsar~
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