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writes:I already know what everyone will say to this, but please say it anyway! I met a guy on an internet dating site and we have been speaking on msn for a few months, he lives about 100 miles away from me and seemed to really like me. he kept begging me to set a date to go down to his town and visit. So, since we got on so well and he kept telling me he wanted me to be his girlfriend and he could see himself falling in love with me, I went last weekend. We seemed to get on ok and we had sex ... a LOT. I know its stupid but he said he hates condoms and promised he would pull out so i let him. But he didnt pull out and came inside me twice. I reallyyyy like this guy but the next day when I went home, he told me he doesnt see anything serious happening between us and would like us to stay friends and that he is seeing his ex again. Devastated!Of course, I cant be 100% certain i'm not pregnant, but i'd be veryyy shocked if I was. I usually have a 35 day cycle and my last period began on the 16th August. I slept with him on the 27th August. So i shouldnt even have ovulated yet.We have discussed what would happen if i did fall pregnant and hes made it clear he doesnt want a baby. I'm almost certain I wont be pregnant, but because I'm so mad at him for using me for sex (i've never had a on night stand before btw and i wouldnt have slept with him if i'd known i wouldnt be seeing him again), i'm soooo tempted to fake a pregnancy.I know its wrong and I'm not sure why I want to do it - to get one up on his gorgeous ex, to make sure he remembers me, to stay in his life as someone more important than just one of his many many friends, I have no idea.Someone talk some sense into me please!!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 Just curious, how old are you?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (27 September 2010):
 At the same time it might not be a bad idea to establish his paternity. That way you can get child support and what not. Even if you say you don't want it now, raising a child is difficult and expensive. He should at a minimum be financially responsible for his child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell i recently found out that i actually AM pregnant. I havent spoken to him, havent told him and am just planning to have no contact with him. Hes made it clear he wouldnt be involved and Id rather he wasnt in mine or my babys life because i chose not to tell him about it, than have him not be in our lives because he chose not to have anything to do with us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): honestly do what you want.. hes an ass so i understand why you wanna get back at him. but remember there is karma. i told someone i was pregnant which i thought i was i just wasnt 100% sure. but i did it because we didnt talk as much as we used to. but then i took the plan b pill. so to this day i could have been. most people are gonna say rude ass shit. but maybe they've never been in our shoes?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): As the others have said he will get his maybe not now, but later on in life. Faking being pregnant isn't going to achieve anything. Try to remember some guys will say what you want to hear in order to get what they want, and never ever believe the line I will pull out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo I didn't use him for sex, just because I had sex with him doesn't mean I was using him for it. I thought we would have a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): i seriously wouldn't recommend it - let krama get him - you walk away with dignity whilst you have the chance. Also, get checked for STDs etc. By the way, what would you do if you were honestly pregnant?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): 1. He used you for sex but you didn't use him for sex? Where were you then?
2. Practice safe sex. Pregancy may be the least of your problems if you are not careful.
3. Pretend you are pregnant to get back at him? Grow Up!
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (2 September 2010):
 Actually you DO need a psychological evaluation. Haven't you already done your stupid thing for a lifetime...having unprotected sex with a guy you barely know?? In this day and age, how can you believe this shit about letting a guy pull out of you when you're having sex? Did you actually think he would? OF COURSE NOT!!! He doesn't give a damn about you...he just wanted to have a good time. What are you, stupid? Please grow up, and dont allow this to happen again. First of all.
Secondly, if this wasn't enough, you want to fake a pregnancy and why? So that he "remembers" you? He would...you wud be the Crazy Lady.Instead of getting one up on his ex, you would be the laughing stock. Please get some sense into your head. It was bad enough having unprotected sex, dont make it worse now. And ok....assuming you DO make up this story...what next? A web of lies, lies and more lies. How much will you lie? Dont you seriously have anything better to do?
Move on, get over this bad experience, and dont act like a fool. Get a hold on yourself.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (2 September 2010):
 It will only affect your credibility if you do that sort of thing you know. This guy is obviously an A-grade sleazeball who's used you, but there's little you would acheive by faking a pregnancy - after all, he's made it clear he won't be a part of the baby's life anyway.
Revenge is a dish best served cold. Leave it to fate - seriously. And chalk it down to experience. You'll know better next time.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (2 September 2010):
Having been on the receiving end of faked pregnancies, I'm very against such things. I'd recommend reading the story of the boy who cried wolf.
That being said, he was an ass. I believe that people like him get what's coming to them. There is no need for you to sink yourself to his level.
Please stick to your guns about safe sex in the future.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 September 2010):
Do you want a record as someone who has mental issues? And I ask that seriously, because there have been several cases of a woman faking pregnancy, then faking abortions and they have had to undergo psychological evaluation.
This is something that, if you do, not only will you make a complete and utter fool of yourself, but you are very likely to have to undergo psychological evaluation. He'll find out, and then he can tell a doctor, who can tell another doctor, and they'll send the men in white coats around to come and check up on you.
Also, he will remember you, as will his many friends. But not as someone more important. Rather, as 'that psycho woman who faked a pregnancy because she was crazy and desperate'.
Yes, he used you. But you were silly enough to believe all that crap about condoms! (For which you need to get checked for STD's, by the way, since he's probably done this before.)
Seriously. Do this, and first of all you'll look desperate. Secondly, you'll be made to look a liar and fool. Thirdly, you'll be put up for psychological evaluation - something that will affect your job prospects.
I hope that's enough to make you see sense. Do this, and you're the one who looks utterly desperate and crazy.
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