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anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid:After exchanging emails with a guy I met online for about a week, I gave hime my phone number. He waited approximately 3 days and called me on his lunch break at work. Our conversations were brief but pleasant. I told him that I enjoyed talking with him, and he said the same. So far, we have spoken twice, and it has been two days since he last called. Should I call him or should I just wait? I'm wondering if he is no longer interested or if he's just waiting for me to call.. he does seem very shy. Any input is much appreciated. I'm so tempted to just give him a ring!
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reader, SMARTERthaniappear +, writes (21 June 2011):
 I'm sure he's still interested in you. He's just waiting for you to call. After all you did say he's a shy guy. Maybe he's thinking because you havn't called him, you don't have interest in him. DEFINETLY GIVE HIM A CALL. Socialize with him and he'll become comfortable making a move =) Break the brick wall between you two and maybe he'll get enough courage to GIVE U A RING =0
Another answer to your question would be maybe he's just busy dealing with his own life. After all you only have had conversations with him through messages and twice in phone calls. Your relationship isn't very serious yet and you are just on friendly notes. In other words, his priorities are put before a friend he has just about met. Once your relationship with him grows so will his wanting for you =)
You could test him and see if he is interested in you by giving him a call. If he constintely ignores your calls, more than likely he isn't interested. Or again maybe it could be his shyness. Test him out and eventually you'll figure it out. If you don't feel comfortable calling, than send a message online. If he only responds to your messages but not your calls, than it's his shyness.
HOPE I HELPED ^.^
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reader, desirewhitefire  +, writes (21 June 2011):
 I don't see the harm in giving him a call and asking him if he would like to meet for coffee. Some of my guy friends love being pursued. Give it a shot, the worst he could say is no.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (21 June 2011):
 You have only made contact with him online very recently. I don't think his waiting three days to phone you is all that long a time. It's true that if a man is really interested he won't wait all that long.
However, hasn't it occurred to you he might be busy? After all, you have (I hope) a life of your own and things to keep you occupied; and so does he. Surely you're not sitting around waiting for the phone to ring (whether it be your cell phone, or landline)?
Anyway, there's no reason why you shouldn't give him a call in another few days. If you want to suggest meeting for coffee or lunch, there's no reason not to - and according to how he responds you'll have a better sense of how interested he is.
Good luck.
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reader, babygirllovej  +, writes (21 June 2011):
 It wouldn't hurt to give him a call. Just try to call him when you think he is not working. If he doesn't answer leave a polite message that you just wanted to chat and see how he was doing.
Good Luck!
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reader, cupidus +, writes (21 June 2011):
 Well if he is shy he's going to have to cowboy up if he wants a date with you or live in misery, his choice.
I have heard through the grape vine that even the most shy of men come out roaring like a lion when there lion loins tell them it is so.
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