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*eckster01
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, after the first 6 months i found out he had profiles on a bunch of dating sites online and he had been communicating with one women and saying things like he wanted to start a relationship with her. i know the smart thing to do would have been to leave then but i stayed around. i caught him doing the same thing numerous times and just a couple of days ago i found another profile he made.my question is should i give him one more chance? i know i shoould probably leave him, but how? I'm so in love with the person i thought he was and i want to believe he'll change but deep down i know he wont. how do i leave him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): Please, women everywhere want to believe that their BF will change... if it's him not getting drunk after the marriage, stop beating her once he has a job... or getting a job after the holidays... whatever...
He's NOT GOING TO CHANGE... not with you anyway. He knows how he can treat you and he's doing it. He'll only change (maybe) once he looses you and have to deal with the loss.
plan your exit and do it.
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reader, beckster01 +, writes (26 October 2010):
beckster01 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe problem is we live together, i moved to another city for him. i have a job here that i love i'm also going to school here. i don't know how to start over by myself (well i guess its not that i dont know how i'm just scared.) i regret it now but i got him a computer in my name at one of those places where you pay weekly. he still owes over 1000 bucks on it, im not going to pay for it, i dont want it but how do i get him to pay?
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reader, PLAYFUL +, writes (26 October 2010):
 You have to fine what u what u know deep down he won't change they never do I been their I was with my guy for 3 years I new he was going out on me but my love for him kep me with him I wish I got out sooner then later do what I did look deep down in u and see u love him he don't love u cuz if he did he wouldent be doing what he douse love your self and get out yes it will hurt but u free yourself from that pain fine you someone that could love u as much as u love yourself or more u don't need him he only hurting u that not love way give ur love to someone who won't care what hurting u and he won't change I know from my past I happy now ...good luck xox
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 October 2010):
Come on. Wake up. This relationship is a huge waste of time and you know it. Within 6 months he was having contact with other women on internet sites, then you caught him numerous other times, and now you've found it yet again. How much more of this behaviour will you tolerate? How much longer will you allow yourself to be degraded? You're in love with who you THOUGHT he was. That's a dream. Because he's not who you thought he was. At all. Dumping him is as easy as you want it to be. You can either tell him it's over, cut contact and never speak again and looks for a better guy, or you can continue to subject yourself to this treatment and just be a doormat for the rest of this relationship.
Just tell him it's over, never speak to him again. It's easy, if you stop looking at this dream, and look at the reality.
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