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writes:I live in Australia and my boyfriend lives in India. Now he is coming to visit me in Australia and wants me to stay with him in a hotel. I don't want this coz i dn't want to hurt my parents since we are not married. How do i tell him this? I tried to tell him indirectly but he cut me off by saying that i'm too complicated and these are simple things and that my parents will never come to know. Please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (26 October 2010):
 Do NOT let him force you into anything you are not comfortable doing. Especially sex. You're not being complicated, you're being perfectly reasonable and level-headed. I smell trouble with this guy, especially if this will be your first time meeting him..if that's the case don't meet him at his hotel alone. I suggest you meet in a well lit public area, and your friends know of your location and the situation.
Just simply tell him no, you don't want to stay with him in the hotel.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 October 2010):
 Write him an e-mail BEFORE he comes to visit. TELL him that you look forward to seeing him, but that you want to make sure he understand that there will be NO SEX. Now if he gets all upset and don't want to come, you know all he wanted was sex.
Stand firm and speak up.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (26 October 2010):
 What are the circumstances of your LDR? Have you met him before or is this an online relationship? Under no circumstances should he be making you have sex if you do not want to. Don't let him manipulate you into doing something you don't want to.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (26 October 2010):
 Hey hunnie, dont let him persuade you! if you do not want to do this then tell him straight look you either stand by me and my value or you are not worth it! Do not back down just because he wants more than you are prepared to give if he really likes or loves you then this would not be an issue, if this is a first meeting then make sure you never spend time alone with this man till you feel safe and secure, over the internet we let our hearts fall faster than our heads can keep up. do not land in a snow roll ! stand up for what you believe and keep safe hunnie! all the best aphex
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