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writes:My girlfriend and i have been dating for 2 months now and it has been going great until just a week ago. After the first month of dating she was the first one to say she loved me but it wasnt strong love yet, and that it would get stronger over time. since then we have said "i love you" to each other every night. But last thursday i had asked if she wanted to stay the night and she was pretty excited, so the following day i asked her if she was still staying the night and she said: "I dont think im gonna make it, i just get a bad feeling, and it would be uncomfortable for me" so being the overthinkative guy i am, my mind goes in a million directions. So i state that there must be something wrong bcuz she was ecstatic the previous day to stay the night, and proceeded to bring up the fact that she doesnt like coming over. And she said: "idk, i guess not..." so i asked if everything was okay between us and she said yes, but shes been feeling wierd lately. and couldnt explain it. So i state that maybe she doesnt love me as much as she thinks. But she denied and said that she really does, and proceeded to say that it seems i want such a serious relationship that i want to put a ring on her finger and shes not ready for that. So i assured her that im definitely not even thinking about that kinda stuff and didnt mean to move to fast. so i just told her id give her some space and she could contact me whenever she felt was good. NOW 10 hours later at 1:22 in the morning i get a txt saying: "Babe, I cant go to bed without saying goodnight to you. My head is just going crazy. I know im confusing. Im just as confused as you are. I do love you, i know that. Thank you for the space. I really need it. I'll txt you some time tomorrow. I love you.."now she did txt me later on that day and everything seemed fine we went to the movies the next day and had a good time, then yesterday we rented a movie and wow it was boring, we both literaly just sat next to each other and watched a movie in our own privacy. she didnt wanna hold my hand, kiss, cuddle, fool around. Like what couple just WATCHES a rented movie!? so since that little episode where she needed space i have felt really down bcuz i think shes distancing herself from me and not showing as much affection anymore, she still calls me babe and tells me she loves me every day. But i dont know what to think anymore..Am i just overthinking this or is there more to it?i was contemplating on talking to her about it but idk what to do im going crazy, she means so much to me...
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (26 October 2010):
 Whoa down boy! You've just started going out 2 months ago and you're already thinking of putting a ring on finger? Take it down some notches here, you hardly know this girl, and "I love you" came way too quickly on her behalf. Slow it down. this relationship is progressing a little too fast. She's starting to notice that..it's possible she didn't want to spend the night because she's not ready for sex just yet. Give her more space, and slow it down between the two of you. The more you move fast, the sooner the relationship is over.
And yes people rent movies to actually watch them! Otherwise you just wasted 4-5 bucks, or if you rented from Redbox I wouldn't fret over a buck.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (26 October 2010):
 Maybe you should sit down and talk to her about this. Maybe she's feeling a little overwhelmed right now, and just needs you to look her square in the eyes and tell her that evrything is going to be alright. Encourage her to talk to you if she's feeling confused, sad etc. This will build up the communication between you both, and it will become second nature to confide in each other more often.
Tell her that you will always be there to help her if she needs it and that she can confide in you anytime and that you will do your best to try and solve the issue together, as a couple...
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