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writes:Hello everyone,I am 15 years old and well my life seems quite boring. I go to school come home, do homework then whatever else, at the weekend I don't see anyone from school, I have friends but we never go out at the weekend or anything, they never ask me and I'd feel akward asking them - it's a little complicated but I know why I don't have any 'close' or 'best' friends. Anyway, I have found I am not very confident and would like to start going out with a good group of friends, and I feel the best time for me to do this would be when I start college - next year. I just feel a little subnormal sometimes because the rest of the girls in my year are always going out and they are all really close friends with eachother. Also they all have boyfriends and are 'doing certain things' which I am no where near ready for, I don't even want a relationship yet.I was hoping when I go to college, which is not close to my current school, I will meet some good friends and start having a close group of friends and going out. I will be 16 then, so will it be ok, my confidence will grow and I will live like a proper teenager, not a boaring one.The thing is when I first started high school I made friends with the wrong group of people, realizing that, I seperated myself from their group and by the time I did that, Everyone was settled in their new groups, so I was like an inconvenience.I just want a little reassurance that when I find a good group of friends when I start college everthing will be alright and I will be happier and act like a normal teenager. Thank you for reading, your comments are much apreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2011): i had few friends at your age too , but There's very little reassurance i can give you , you have to do that for yourself. School is a small environment, everyone is cliquey. There's nothing you can do about it , but embrace who you are. college will be a bigger world for you.Everyone to a degree is unconfident some people just hide it better than others. pretend you're confident, it's hard but when you start acting confident you become confident. do what i did in my first week of uni, say hello to people anyone you meet. make small talk where you from? Ask then what they are studying.Everyone's in the same boat, and in ten years time when you've got a stable job most of the people you meet at college you may not even be talking to anyway! focus on enjoying the experience meet as many people as you can, and brush off the mean ones because they aren't worth the hassle and its unlikely you will carewhen you look back. all the best hun.
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reader, FatTony89 +, writes (12 June 2011):
No one can guarantee you will make friends. I'm not a psychic you will just have to like yourself first and gain some real confidence and join groups that you like and strike up convos with other people. If you have a connection then ask them to hang out and then become friends. It works.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (12 June 2011):
 Well I can tell you that when I went to university I met alot of new people, some I still talk to and some I don't. Also you can meet people through work which happened a lot too. I know how you feel. I had a few close friends in high school but not many and I was always really shy and awkward. University was a chance for me to start life as the person that I wanted to be. That included a big wardrobe change and no longer being afraid to be express how I really felt. I would consider it the best point of change in my life.I'm sure you will be happy with what happens. Remember though that the experience is what you make of it, so don't be afraid to be yourself and grow as a person. by doing that you are bound to find people in your position who are coming out of their shell too. Best of luck to you.
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