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writes:so me and this guy have been friends for about a yr. but recently this past week and a half we have decided to be fwb. this all started during the trip with some of his family and i told him we couldn't talk to each other when we got back to school since all we are going to be is fwb but for odd reason i'm the one who broke my own rules. see, now i want a realtionship with him. i'm just not sure how to bring this up or exactly how to begin to discuss this with him. i mean its not like he has tried to hide the fact that we are more than friend to everyone. he holds my hand, we hang out every chance we get, kiss in public and we both aren't talkin to anyone else like that but when someone asks us if we are together we tell them no. so what i'm askin is how should i tell him i want to be in a relationship with him? Reply to this Question
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reader, BassiveMalls +, writes (13 September 2010):
 Normally turning FWB into a relationship doesn't work, but this looks like it could. You're already spending a lot of time together (shcool) and you're both showing PDA's (holding hands). Tell him you want more than what he is offering right now.
Most people who want to be in a FWB situation like the freedom so tell him the two of you should ease into and not be on the phone with each other all the time and texting him like "WHERE ARE YOU? I CALLED 5 MINUTES AGO AND YOU DIDN'T ANSWER!" In fact never do text anyone that. He'll feel less threatened if you tell him you should start out as a somewhat"distant" couple.
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reader, RIKI93dw  +, writes (12 September 2010):
What ever the result he should know how you feel but based on your descriptions if they are that accurate there is a very slight chance that he may feel the same way but that is my view on your description I could be wrong. But yh you should tell him as he is so close to you perhaps next time your with him yh.
I hope it works out
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reader, Odds +, writes (12 September 2010):
 Just ask. Say, "I want this to be serious." If he says no, then you'll have to accept that and move on.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (12 September 2010):
 Just tell him how you feel and see where it goes from there. When he kisses you, tell him that you like it when he kisses you, when he holds your hand and you actually want to be with him. Good Luck
I hope that helps.
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reader, okland +, writes (12 September 2010):
heya,
im sorry to say this but fwb just DONT work! my friend was once involved with the fwb thing nd she wanted more and he didnt. if a man doesnt want a relationship but justa bit of fun then thts ok if only u agreed but if u start having feelings of wanting it to be more serious thats where it gets complicated. if he made it clear from the start tht he didnt want anything more serious then im sorry but maybe he is getting the feelings ur getting too. just throw caution to the wind and ask him afterall what could u lose. a few kisses and dates when u could be in a serious relationsip. x
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reader, wisernow +, writes (12 September 2010):
Why not say "l want to be in a relationship with you" the next time he kisses you?
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