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writes:well-after 6 years my ex fiance contacted me to be a facebook friend 2 days agowhat the hell i thought just to see what hes up toi wish i hadnt looked-he got married and there were wedding pictures everywhere-i felt really upset.he didnt know i was on facebook-we share no mutual friends anymore so why after so long 6 years has he chose to contact me especially since hes just got married 3 months agoim in tears writing this-am i really such an awful person that he would want to rub my nose in it ? i dont understand please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): You are not alone. I had an ex contact me wanting me to go to a barbecue at his school with him and his new gf, something like that. I figured he wanted to watch us fight over him. I just didn't go. Just delete him from your friends list if those pics upset you. Sorry that this happened to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): I don't think he does want you in his present. For a guy getting married it means that he will forsake all other women for the rest of his life and he is just thinking of you now and letting you know as a bit of closure for himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit wasnt a nice breakup but im his past-why does he want me in his present ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): I'd say this answer depends on how things left off. Did he blame you for the break up? Have harsh feelings toward you? Anger? If so, it may've been his way of saying "I don't need you afterall. I've moved on."
If things were peacefull, then i would go with rythmandblues and say he was hoping you would be happy for him. His life has elevated significantly and it's hard to let go of passed people. Especially those who really meant something to you. Since his life has taken such steps, he probably found himself thinking of you and wondering what turns YOUR life has taken.
~Sy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for replying i feel such a fool
the sad thing is i still really love him
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): Oh, I am sorry you have this reaction to his contacting you. I think since it has been three years he just thought you would be happy for him and he wanted to know if you were happy too.
You don'it have to be married or even in a relationship to be happy, so don't look at this like he is rubbing your nose in it. If he had done this right after the break up that would be one thing, but after three years he is just letting you know what his status is and you are important enough for him to keep in touch.
That is a compliment to you, not a slight. You obviously meant a lot to him. So let him know how you are and whether or not you are currently in a relationship does not matter. You are a person with a life of their own.
Take care, sweetheart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): He probably thought you was over it like he is.Or maybe he did want to rub your face in it,
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