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writes:I want my wife to have sex with other men.This wife is #2, we have been married for 14 years, and in year 2 or 3 she said she has never had a orgasm in her life.She was in her late 30's when we got married, she has been with i guess 15 or so men before me.So i know it's not just me or the lack of my time in bed with her.She has seen a few doctors about this, we tried everything but no luck.She does'nt hate sex, but has zero desire.We have sex about 3 times a month,i would like much, much more.My first wife had sex with many men in the 20 years we were married, i loved it, to go to bed with her knowing she just had sex with my best friend was the best, i liked the idea of her boyfriends thinking she was cheating behind my back. When all the time they were making our sex life the best we ever had, and my wife loved every minute of it.My new wife is the type i can't even talk about this kind of thing,she would go nuts.I dream about her meeting some guy,either at work,gym,ect. some goodlooking guy married, single i don't care.Somebody she likes and it turn into sex, i have encouraged her to pick out a young guy as a work-out partner at the gym,you know somebody you can train with,a guy for her to spend time with. Hoping then that would lead to a drink, then somehow at his house having a affair with him.The thougt of her having sex with other men makes me smile.I need something to get her to think about other men,I wish it was just me that she can't orgasm with,it would be so easy, then she would go out and get it from another man.I really think if she had a boyfriend to have sex with, and have a loving husband to come home to she would like it.Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2011): Oh brother!...not another one with this fetish. I have fulfilled the role of "bull" on several occasions for two different couples, and both of them good are friends of mine. Some guys just like the idea of men having sex with their wives and girlfriends I guess; however, based on my experience, once you give your woman the green light, you do leave yourself wide open for your wife hooking up with guys behind your back. Trust me when I tell you this, because you're really going to be hating your life when she has more chemistry with her stud than you. I've been there!
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reader, Cupid_or_Stupid  +, writes (21 August 2011):
 I think you should stop thinking of your wife as your ex wife. They are two different people. You should have enough respect for your wife to not want to pass her around the neighbourhood like a sex toy. She is married to YOU she clearly loves YOU. If she wanted to sleep around with other man she wouldn't want to be married. You both need to go to sex therapy. You to get over this fetish that you are trying to push onto your wife who clearly does not give you her blessing and for your wife to enjoy what of a sex life she has.Remember this is HER life too, not just yours. You say you're not being selfish and want her to have an orgasm. But who even says she wants one with anyone other than her HUSBAND. I wouldn't push this Mike guy onto her for one moment. You are, in effect, pimping her out behind her back. Hopefully she has enough self respect to stay true to you and most importantly herself and not let him 'slip her panties off' no matter how 'nice' they are. Your relationship is made up of the TWO of you. You have to accept you are not the same sexually. You don't share the same sexual desires and fetishes as you and your ex may have. I'm sorry but that's just something you'll have to deal with. Again, therapy will help here.
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reader, akai +, writes (20 August 2011):
akai is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy wife has a vegas trip planned for a while now, this trip was going to be with one of her girl friends, it seems that her girlfriend can't make the trip now. So with her having already booked her room, and show tickets, and really looking foward to a few nites in vegas I have suggested to her no problem, take mike with you,you really like mike and you guys can go to shows, go dancing,drink, and party all nite.She paused for a minute and said maybe, but theres one problem, we only have one room,I told her that it has 2 beds and whats the problem, mike has spent the nite here many times.I think she may go for it,let me tell you about mike,he has had the ok to do something with her for a couple of years now.He is 20 years younger,single, a lady's man, goodlooking, and a party animal,if anybody can slip her panty's off this guy can,and she has some nice panty's.I really hope something happens,she needs someone to pry her out of her shell.
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reader, akai +, writes (20 August 2011):
akai is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'am really not a selfish person, if I was I would not want her to enjoy sexual pleasures. And as for as my first wife and marriage for 20 plus years goes the reason were not still married is because she was killed in a car crash, otherwise we would still be together.I know this type of life style is not for 98% of the marriages out there, but for a few it is. My wife #1 loved it and so did I, I'am a big boy, and I like hearing your views and comments. And as far as not wanting to talk to her about this subject,I have tryed, she refuses to talk about sex period, gets mad about it,why, I have not a clue.You can't work out a problem if the other person refuses to open up about it,so thank you for all your comments and advise, it all helps even thou you may disgree with my lifestyle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2011): If your wife is unable to orgasm and has no interested in sex with you. And you have a long established Cuckold fetish. My advice would be for you both to attend sexual therapy as a couple and get some professional help.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (20 August 2011):
 You are kinda treating your wife like an object. It's clear you don't know what she really wants and desires. Maybe she is so overwhelmed with what YOU want and what YOUR needs are that she has 'gone into her shell'
Ok so your particular fetish worked with your first wife, but your new wife is a completely different person and you are trying to push her into doing something she doesn't want to do...how very selfish and stupid.
Maybe when she married you, she thought you would respect her, love her, cherish her and allow her to be herself, obviously you had other plans and the only thing that is important to you is that you get your own way.
You sound like a very selfish person and someone who wants to exploit an unsuspecting woman. You just cannot do that to people if they are unwilling.
Perhaps when you pick wife number 3 you will actually let her know what your motives are before you actually marry her, so she can have the chance to get away from you, unlike your poor wife now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2011): What makes you think she is going to want to have sex with other men when you're afraid to even discuss it with her? If she only has sex with you 3x per month, has no desire and doesn't orgasm ever she isn't that much into sex probably. Instead of sending your 2nd marriage down the toilet by bringing this up why don't you work with her to get her to orgasm and get some therapy for yourself and as a couple?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2011): all i have to say is WTF is wrong with you if my wife or girlfriend had sex with another man i would be pissed and leave her...alright i know we all are different so im not gonna judge soo heres some advice....bring some of your guy friends around some sexy guy with abs and a hot body go to the beach or the pool were she can see him half naked dude and if that doesnt work come straight out and just say have sex with my wife bro
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (20 August 2011):
Don't assume this will make her happy just because you think it will make YOU happy.
Um, that marriage where you let your wife have sex with other men didn't work out, right?
Regardless of how this makes YOU feel, the woman may feel guilty over this.
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