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writes:my relationship with my family has been getting worse, my mother has been sick since december,and we dont know what it is. shes been out of work, and im on crutches with a hurt knee, and whenever i need her i ask her but she gets so mad when i need her to help me.. i ask her to drive me to school because i cannot take a bus on crutches, itd be so hard, i tell her that too and try to make her understand but then all she says is i guess your not going to school then. thats real smart, punishing me by taking my education away for a day? i guess she finally realizes school is what makes me happy, and when she wants to punish me, she takes it away.. Also, my brother's ex girlfriend is staying with us because her ex boyfriend, stalked her and beat the crap out of her. i dont get why shes back in my house after she stole my playstation3 from me and my brother, and some of my clothes too.. my parents dont really care, they just tell me to hide my things and if it disappears its my fault for not hiding them good enough. but thats not my fault, right? i shouldnt have to hide my money, or my expensive camera. its my house.. and whats even worse is that my other brother was getting his life together, going to marry the best girl he could ever have. and they broke up last night, and hes living with us again..he also steals, and lies and drinks too.. i was crying all night and all day today somehow weddings and friendship came up in every class discussion, she texted me saying she will always be apart of my life, and she loves me and im her little sister no matter what. but its just different now, she seemed like the only one who wanted to get to know me, who wanted to be the sister that i tell everything to, that i go to advice for. she was always there, and now i wont have that in my life really.. and everytime i always try and get close with my cousins and family, but they ignore me.. i see on their facebooks how they post on their walls saying hi i love you! but not once have i gotten that.. every status i post about me disliking this house, they freak out on and suddenly were all fighting, when they dont know what i go through, yet they dont care.. i swear, every good thing i get, is taken away.. right now, im getting so upset because i have my sister in law taken away, and soon the one teacher i could confide in, who called me her daughter, who taught me everything i should know, who made an effort to talk to me about everything, and helped me through every problem i came across, is going to be taken away from me too.. summers coming soon and going 3 months without her seems impossible, i used to write in a journal every week for her, because she wanted me to, and then i'd leave it in her desk for her to read, she wants me to write a book, everything i do amazes her, i take one picture, she tells me i could be a photographer, i do a video project, she tells me i could get involved with movie making and filming, i write an essay, she tells me i could write a book. eveyrthing i do she believes in,and lets me realize how talented i am. shes always there for me, and everything i do is to make her proud, when i get good grades, i tell her first, when i make the right decision, shes so proud of me! i dont know but, all i do know is that, i need her for those 3 months, what if more things happen in my family? shes like the mom i always wanted, and lately ive been considering asking her to adopt me, even though it'd hurt because i do love my family, im just unsafe and she thinks the same thing. she knows i love them, she just goes home thinking about how i am, im always on her mind, and its not good.. next year i wont be okay, she wont be my teacher, i wont see her anymore and ill make the wrong choices, as much shes guided me, i need her till im an adult and thats a deffinate. what should i do about my family and my sister in law? how should i handle these 3 months? should i ask for her cellphone number to keep in touch? should i ask to see her a couple times over the summer, just to meet up and talk? i dont know what to do, i need her in my life, i want her as my mom because she literally calls me her daughter, she buys me presents, we have pictures up on her wall, she drove me home once because my entire family ignored my calls.. shes just that one person that i can depend on, because shes gotten so far in life, shes 28, been teaching for 5 years, has a husband, and will be starting a family soon, i want to be just like her. some people call us twins because we both have the same sign, both taurus'(: shes the mom ive always wanted!
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reader, WeCanDoIt  +, writes (11 May 2011):
 I am pleased it's a happy ending for you. Xxx
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reader, l0vexl0ckdOwnnx0 +, writes (11 May 2011):
l0vexl0ckdOwnnx0 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank youu,yes i always tell her like i cant do it, and most of the time she says what will you do this summer without me, we dont talk for a week, and you make a bad choice.. (i got suspended for a day today) and shes very very veryy upset with me, she told me though that she promises we'll be keeping in touch, and once i graduate im babysitting her kids that way i can be apart of her life, and we'll hang out tooo.
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reader, WeCanDoIt +, writes (7 May 2011):
I think you should defiantly ask to see her during the holidays. It is such a shame about everything that is going on.I am not sure if I would ask her to adopt you, but you could hint at it by saying, I don't know how I am going to cope any more and things like that. You wouldn't want to loose her because it became awkward. I hope everything turns out to be ok. At least you will have your education and no one can take that away from you. Good Luck. Xxx
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (7 May 2011):
 In that case, I think you should maybe consider adoption as a last resort if you ever find yourself emotionally exhausted of it all. If they are good people, you should definitely give them a chance.
Just keep in touch with your teacher and your sister-in-law, keep them as close friends, the family that supports you while you reconcile with your mother and your brothers.
I hope that helps.
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reader, l0vexl0ckdOwnnx0 +, writes (7 May 2011):
l0vexl0ckdOwnnx0 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys, do you think i should really consider adoption? i mean, i love my family, they're nice and good people, its just i dont get the support, and attention i need.. i have to beg my parents to go to my own parent teacher conferences, and even there, the one teacher i confide in sat next to me during our meeting and told my dad of how im her little girl, and she loves me to death, and how she guides me and gives me confidence in school, but when i go home i lack confidence without her around, and its what i need because i doubt the work i can do, without their support..
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael +, writes (7 May 2011):
I cannot imagine how hurt you are, how much you go through everyday but you have to understand that even though she cares about you, adoption might not be possible. You're asking for her to bring you fully into her life, you also have to consider how her husband would feel about that. You also have to consider whether or not your own family would give their consent, they need to be the ones who give the word that your teacher can adopt you.
Just don't raise your hopes too much okay? I'm not saying it's impossible, its just difficult. If you want to ask her, ask her the next time you see her but make sure you don't put too much pressure on her to say yes, try not to guilt her into doing it because you know she does care very much.
Just in case she says no, don't be sad, you'll still have her friendship and you still have your other brother's ex girlfriend right? Who told you that you'd always be her little sister. Keep doing the best you can and no matter how horrible your family might be, you're different so try to understand them. Obviously what family issue trouble you also trouble them. Your mother is sick so try to understand when she's irrational and cruel. I know it might not make sense and to you it might not be possible but if everyone succumbs to the anger and pain in your household, nothing good will come of it.
Best of luck
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): I think you should ask her if theres a way you guys can keep in touch and just tell her how you feel and what your worried about im sure she will think of some thing.
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