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writes:Hi, i need some help. When i was 20 years old i had sex with a guy....that was my first time. Since that was my first time so i bleed. Now im 25 years of age. And for the last 5 years i didn't had sex. I just wanted to know if now il have sex with my boyfriend will i again bleed ? Coz i have lied to my boyfriend that im still a virgin. Please give some advise that i can prove to my boyfriend while having sex that im still a virgin.
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reader, HERBSMAN  +, writes (15 November 2009):
Honesty is the best way to go. He may be hurt, I know I was, but if you loves you he'll get over it or at least learn to live with it.
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reader, snofaul  +, writes (5 October 2009):
I'd just like to mention that I didn't bleed. Like.. honestly it didn't hurt at all. It made me and my partner very confused. But chances are that I probly tore it by playing sports, using tampons, or whatever.
Whether you lie or not, it's up to you. But there's really no way that he can say you aren't a virgin unless you tell him.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (14 September 2009):
 You can't prove something that isn't true. That's just lying. You should come clean sooner rather than later. Lying is just always a bad choice.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (14 September 2009):
 Tell him the truth. This kind of a lie is not the way to start a relationship. NO, no, no, not at all. We cannot go through life thinking we will get the love, honesty and respect that we want, without giving it back. That's my two cents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2009): If you aren't a virgin, you won't be able to "prove" you're a virgin.
Why not just tell the truth? I'd rather sleep with a girl who isn't a virgin than one who lies about being a virgin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2009): you should just be honest with your boyfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2009): Ok, not everyone bleeds the first time. I think there's a 50/50 chance... WHEN YOU'RE A VIRGIN!
I didn't bleed. But you know, would it be so awful to be honest? Just explain your feelings as to why you lied. Really, I'm trying not to be judgmental, but I learned THE HARD WAY that honesty wins all the time. If he loves you, sure he'll be hurt that you lied, but he'll understand. If he truly loves you, he won't dump you for not being a virgin.
Honesty is the best in this cases. Too bad you already lied, but maybe it's not too late to tell him the truth?
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (14 September 2009):
whats the point?? Your words are all wrong. You ask how you can "prove" well you can't because your not. If you already looking to lie then this relationship isn't going to work.
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