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writes:Hi everyone!I have been with a guy for 2 years. It is my first bf. It started as a long distance relationship, but now I stay with him. I am his first gf too! He is a very shy guy. The problem is physically. We kiss each other goodbye everyday before work, but that is it!!NOTHING MORE!!!I want more, but I dont know how to inisiate it! Is he into me or not???? THere are no other problems! We dont talk about our feelings. I also cant cry in front of him. Please give advice??????THANXx x x x
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 January 2008):
 If you want more , you have to initiate it, like unbuttoning his shirt or unzip his pants or slip your hands under his shirt or pants and I am sure he would not push you away.He is afraid or shy that you may think badly of him if he does that. He is a clean and straight guy.
You cannot talk about such things. It has to be spontaneous.When you kiss, you can raise the temperature a bit by squeezing him where you dare. You will be in control. You will be the driver and steer where you want to go.
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 tell him you want to go further with your relationship physically, a heart to heart chat is needed is you ask me.
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 Gosh!!! Where do I start? Ok here goes.
I suggest you guys sit down and have a good old chat, (communication in a relationship is a MUST). Tell him that after two years together, that you would like to get intimate ie making love. He is probably just as scared of asking you too, but you must get this out in the open. Listen to each other, and make notes of each other's needs(very important) in this relationship. I guess the reason why you guys have not communicated about your needs is, because both of you have never been in a relationship before and do not not what to expect from each other. Please do not be afraid to show any emotion or share feeling, you are both only human and being emotionally stunted can be very unhealthy. I tell you why, its because you are bottling up so much emotionally and physically that something has to give and you can get very frustrated where things can stagnate and escalate into bigger problems becoming very complacent.
Sex is also very important in a loving relationship too, (well I think so anyway). That way you meet each others physical and emotional needs. I suggest you should read up on Sex in relationships too, as this will give you sound advice. Hope I have been of help Dusky xxx.
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reader, maria14r  +, writes (23 January 2008):
i really think you should talk to him. you shouldnt cry just talk to him. let him know what you feel. and what your thinking. tell him you want more now that your living together
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