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writes:I dated Mr T for a short time and he ended things. We were friends first through work. I've carried a torch for years btw it hurt a lot when he ended it so I defriended him in FB not to hurt him but for the following reasons, to:Keep me from spying or seeing his other girls etc.So time has passed and I want to revisit the relationship as friendsI sent him a friend request and he accepted but saidThat's wierd I thought we were friends??I feel awkward and ashamed what should I tell himWill he be mad?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): facebook is the devils work honestly this caused no end of problems and contributed hugely to the breakdown of my previous relationship by causing arguments about who we were friends with dont do it anymore its a pain in the bum
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reader, DeadEyeDick  +, writes (15 December 2011):
 So unfriend him again!! are you serious? really what other option do you have? you do not need him as a friend, until you feel 100% alright with him being your friend. pretty simple and easy answer to this question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): Thank you all!
I just used some humor abs said I deleted all the people that
Went to his school because they were our football competetion
It worked ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2011): dont need to say a word about it. you have added him and he has accept your request so why say anything. let him be the first 2msg u.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 December 2011):
 I agree with Olderthendirt.
People put WAY to much into FB.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (14 December 2011):
 Simply explain that at the time you de-friended him because you were hurt and needed some time to get over the ending of the relationship. But now you are over it and would like to be friends again.
That should be more than enough to explain what happened and I'm sure he will understand.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (14 December 2011):
 allow me to rant briefly...facebook is no way to comunicate feelings. it's a dumb social media device for lonely people to 'think" they have friends. try face-to face conversations or even email.
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reader, hpoco  +, writes (14 December 2011):
 Firstly, he doesn't sound necessarily mad, so don't worry about that.
His question doesn't beg a big explanation. If I were you I would just respond like this: "Sure we are friends, but now its official ;-)".
Don't stress about offering up all your reasons for doing what you did. He is an ex, and you don't owe him that anymore. He will probably figure it out on his own. Make him press you for details only if he really wants them. Its better to keep it light. Most likely, if you respond in a light-hearted, playful way, you won't have to say anything else. Plus, you gain a little respect for being "over" him.
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