A
male
age
30-35,
*ilveknifex
writes:So basically she said she needs time to figure out what she's going to do about her ex which she went out with 3 years for, she still has feelings for him and she needs to straighten them out, those feelings were getting in the way of are relationship because she just wasn't ready to start a new one, the guy neglects her and treats her like ****, lies to her and just lied to her last night, there's no way she'll go back to him I know it, she said we need a break though because she needs time to herself to figure things out with out the pressure of me, which is fine, she said she just doesn't think she's ready to date, and she wants me to give her space with those types of things, the thing is she is still contacting me, and not ignoring me.I just think she just wants to have fun with me, without the pressure of a relationship between us or talking about her ex, I am in love with this girl, and she already knows, so there is no way I am just going to walk away, she says she doesn't know how long it will take the break up to process if it happens and I was the first one she contacted when she found out her ex was lying to her, this all counts for something, and when i didn't answer her aim she basically sent me 100 aims till i replied, she does still like me, and she wants me and her to work out its just right now she does need to figure out waht she is doing, shes completely honest with me all the time, so shes not cheating or just using this to hook back up with her ex, so in this time what can i do, i have never been in this situation i truly love this girl, and will not give up on her, she said im like the perfect guy, shes just suprised she would find someone like me so shor after her and her ex'x break up (6 months) and we were going out for 2, she sai she doesnt want me to wait around for her, cause she'll feel bad but idc, I truly believe this will work out, she just needs time.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (15 January 2009):
 It sounds like you are trying to convince yourself. You didn't even ask a question. You just came on here telling us she needs time from her ex before she dates you. I don't really understand.
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reader, megan1111 +, writes (15 January 2009):
She needs a friend right now. If you can be that friend, perhaps you can be her lover when she gets over the ex. She is doing you a favor by resolving the ex issue, because if he doesn't get resolved, you'll always have problems which you can never understand. Be patient and be friends. I know you care for her, so now the time to show her and be her friend. Let her put some time between relationships so if she falls in love with you, you have her to yourself without any baggage.
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