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writes:Hello. I am a single mother of a 2 year old little girl. I've been dating a guy for about 3 months now. He's an attractive, funny and smart guy. He has a nice job as well. We both have lots in common except he is 4 years my junior. He has a 3 year old little girl. For the last month, we've been around each other almost everyday. If we're not together, then we're talking on the phone (he calls me most of the time). This is my problem. Everything has been fine for us until these past 4 days. His brother is visiting him from out of town and he has become quite distant without explanation. He's introduced me to his brother both in person and through phone which was cool. However, since his brother came to visit, he hasn't invited me over his house (except once... the first day his brother came, which was the beginning of the time he started acting distant) but he continues to call and still remains a little distant. I talk to his brother as well. Maybe it's me, being impatient but I'm starting to really like this guy. Could anyone enlighten me about what could possibly be wrong? Can someone please help me out there?? Hopefully, I put enough information out there for someone to be able to give me some insight...:-( Thanx... Reply to this Question
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reader, Just Tired +, writes (15 January 2009):
Just Tired is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Sexylette and megan1111!!! I really appreciate your really good advice. You both are right. I guess I'm a little impatient. I was so used to being around him all the time and then for that to suddenly stop...it makes me feel some type of way. Can you blame me though? Lol. But you guys have eased my mind....a lot...and I thank you for it!
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reader, sexylette +, writes (15 January 2009):
 ok you said that your bf and his brother were very distant, so they didn't talk much, or get to see each other. so maybe he's trying to spend time with his brother.! STOP freaking out.! it really sounds like he loves you ALOT . but he needs his time with his brother that he hasnt seen in forever.! They catching up. (is the brother staying or just visiting?)
* If he's just visiting then let him have his brother time, then when he leaves he will notice that you guys were not talking as much and that you too were distant, then he will want to make up for that and spend all his time with you.!
* If he's staying then just give him a week or two to catch up and get to know each other, then he will feel like everything is smooth and normal and he'll start spending time with you AND his brother.!
hope i help .! ;)
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reader, megan1111 +, writes (15 January 2009):
Sounds normal to me if he and his brother are close. Solution, tell him how you feel without feeling insecure. He may simply need some space while his brother is here but odds are he'll try to include you in some of the activities. If his brother doesn't have a wife or girlfriend, then it is odd for a threesome. Imagine if your sister or girlfried where visiting, where would he fit in.
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