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writes:A few days after christmas my cousin had a house party and at this party i found a phone on the floor. I put it in my pocket, planning to keep it but when the party finished the girl who had lost the phone was in tears. But i didnt give it back.Its a blackberry and so you have a blackberry pin, i started using the phone and put the pin on facebook for my friends to add. Forgetting that i have friends of the girl on facebook... word got back to her and everyone found out i took/had it. I did the right thing and gave it back, but now im having abuse on facebook and everyone is talking about me.I feel so low for taking her phone and now im dreading going back to college next week because ill have to see everyone. What do i do?
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reader, SillyB  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 Karma. Don't do something like it again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): You just have to face it. You knew what you did and so even though it's going to be uncomfortable for you, you just have to endure the pain and ridicule you'll be feeling for however long this may take.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (3 January 2011):
 You just have to man up and take it all on the chin. Face these people and be sorry for what you did.
Apologise, be remorseful. Remember you have got off lightly - you stole her phone, and an expensive one at that. Stealing is a crime, she could have called the police on you.
Dont do it again, and learn from this experience.
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reader, raffles +, writes (3 January 2011):
I'm with 'Fabulosa', you have to take full responsibility and own up to everyone. People may well respect you for being honest and facing up to what you did. Leave it alone and the gossip will continue. Take a deep breath and do the right thing, 10 minutes of being uncomfortable will make up for it in the long run i promise you.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 I should imagine you feel pretty horrid ... I am sure you realise now that by not advertising you had the blackberry when you picked it up, and by not returning it when the owner was in tears you realise you were actually STEALING it.
Now you have to live with the fact your friends know that you are comfortable with taking things that aren't yours.
There isnt a lot you can do, apart from remembering that today's news soon becomes yesterday's news. Just ignore the comments on facebook, in fact this might be an ideal time to clean out your friends list and to increase your security settings. Block anybody who has been particularly viscious. Some people will say things online they would never say to a persons face.
Learn from the experience, its going to be tough for a few more weeks, but if you can get through those first days it will get easier for you
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reader, Fabulosa +, writes (3 January 2011):
 You make a huge apology to her, your cousin, and everyone else. Take complete owner ship for what you have done. Post a public apology on face book explaining whY u have done and how bad u feel.... ur going to have to take some people being angery, and you should. And never ever ever never ever do something that stupid again!!!!!
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (3 January 2011):
 You have to face up to what you did, simple as. You had every intention of keeping it in the first place, and didn't give it back until everything kicked off!! No wonder you're getting abuse and everyone is talking about you!!
Well done for giving it back in the end, but if you had just given it back at the end of the night of your cousins house party, none of this would have happened. You need to keep apologising to the girl who's phone it is, and to everyone else. Then you just have to hope that everyone forgives and forgets, but people will find it hard to trust you from now on.
Don't let this happen again!!! If you find something that is lost, either find out who it belongs to or hand it in to the police!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): Thieves are about the lowest type person I bother to categorize. But even thieves deserve redemption.
It will pass. Don't do this again and it will pass.
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reader, xtwinklex +, writes (2 January 2011):
Don't steal stuff :) karma's a bitch huh? You're gonna have to just face the music and deal with it. Eventually something equally gossip worthy will occur and you'll be dome with :) next time, give it back lile a good person, kay?
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