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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My bf and I live together. I have children from previous relationship so does he but mines and our 1 live in our household. He is military and I'm currently unemployed. He pays child support and does visitation twice a month. His ex is unstable. Her oldest child which is not my bf's her mother has custody. Months into our relationship we had temp custody of his children for 2mos bc his ex got evicted. Then a year later we had his kids for another 2mos bc she was incarcerated for not complying with her probation of assery 2 grand larceny. When she sends them their clothes are dirty and too small and hair not combed. 5mos ago she got a misdemeanour child abuse charge bc she left their kids and the car while she went on a job interview.(So she says) Now she has gotten evicted again and we have had them a month and when its time 2 drop them off she says she is in another state and cant get home bc she doesn't have a car so she rode with a friend. I am frustated bc I have left jobs before to take care of their kids and now I have 2 put off job hunting again until she gets her kids. I told my bf he just needs to get custody but he says she told him she doesn't want us to raise and take away her kids. He says he will feel bad to take his kids from her. What do you think about this situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): I'm surprised social services hasn't taken her kids away from her already.
maybe her kids need to go into a foster home until the ex straightens up her life, or he gets custody if he ever mans up and takes responsibility for his own kids.
Since you and him are not married, I don't think it's wise for you to be sabotaging your own employment to take care of someone else's kids. I know you love him and live together but if you're not married, he has no legal commitment to you so these kids are not your responsibility and you never know what can happen in the future, you two could break up whether over this issue or some other so I don't think it's wise to sacrifice your financial independence for someone else's kids.
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reader, Secretlife  +, writes (3 January 2011):
I think he should get custody until she is stable to take care of her kids. I know its hard on you but those kids need to be in ah good home until their mother can take care of them. And it kind of looks like one minute she wants them next minute she don't. This situation is fustrating but I think he should get them until she gets her stuff together.
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