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writes:I feel somewhat embarrased to write this but from reading some of the responses, perhaps someone can help me. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship right now and we're both pretty sexual people and into various aspects of BDSM. Lately my boyfriend has been asking me to come up with some fantasies to amuse us on the phone. He likes really dirty and dark fantasies (usually things that simply stay fantasies and not acted out). I told him about a rape fantasy I had which he said he liked, but he wanted something darker/dirtier. I'm pretty open to most things but I dont want to disappoint him simply because my imagination needs some sparks. Any ideas? Help? Please...
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reader, leanne.od  +, writes (22 September 2007):
 you don't have anything to loose really but sometimes fantasy's acted out aren't as good as first thought and therefore can leave you disappointed but hey, that's a very small posibility.
do what you're comfortable with and if at anytime you have doubts, tell him.
good luck
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (22 September 2007):
Sounds like you are both an adventurous couple and as for the BDSM it is kinky and great fun providing you are both into it together.
There is nothing wrong with going darker providing you adopt the safe-word rule. (Having a word completely unrelated which means STOP NOW.)
I had a BDSM relationship a few years back and loved it - it really was great fun and as we were both Queen fans our safe word was Freddie.
You are limitless in your fantasys - just go for it -
If it works - you benefit -
If it doesn't - learn from it -
If it hurts - use your safe word.
Trev
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reader, rcn +, writes (22 September 2007):
 It's up to you how far you go. Don't do anything past your boundaries. That's all the advice I have. I'm real old fashion, my fantasies are simple, that maybe sometime in my life, I might have sex again. Of course choosing to live single, and date anymore might put a damper on that.
Good luck, take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): Ok first of all, if you are scared of "disappointing" your bf over THAT, then that's just stupid. A guy who really loves you is going to love you regardless and is NOT going to judge you either way. Furthermore, bf's shouldn't get "disappointed." Only parents do. So if this guy gets "disappointed" a lot (or even once) I would just get a new bf who treated me at the same level and didn't try to act above me by being "disappointed."
Anyway, maybe you could tell him that you want to rape him with a strap on?? Or tell him that you would like to try to pierce his balls while you go down on him?? Ask him if he can play the violin and do it to you at the same time??
I don't know. I hope I could help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): Give him darker if ur into that and go into detail about what he wants to hear. All guys are the sam they want something dirty and sexy!
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