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female
age
41-50,
*likenight
writes:I thought I wanted to marry my boyfriend but since he asked me, I am not interested in marrying him anymore.We have a baby together, a 2 month old. I thought it was kind of crappy on his part that he never brought it up, us getting married. I mean, I had to deal with the state to get her and I insurance when we could have been on his insurance and would have a lot better of options when it comes to doctors we can go to etc. and I also had to deal with all this other stuff relating to ber birth certificate, and her social security card, as to what her last name was going to be. So after all that, then he asks me. Which I thought if he wanted to he'd of asked me before we had our baby. Plus the way he asked me was lame, we were at my best friend's house, and she brought it up that he should ask me, so he did, no ring, we were all drinking at the time. Plus he looked like a fool because he was all shy when he said it. I don't see why someone had to tell him to do it. I've been a very good girlfriend and mother to his child. I used to get mad thinking that he never brought it up, but now the way he asked me and since it was after the fact of having the baby, I am resentful thinking about it. Am I just crazy, or is this logical? Also, since he "asked me" he hasn't brought it up once, and I know it's because he is too shy or scared to bring it up. And this was like 2-3 weeks ago when he asked.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (16 June 2007):
 Looks like he has inadequate priorities.
This has nothing to do with his shyness.
"he looked like a fool because he was all shy when he said it"
Actions may be interpreted differently - it is not the point.
Here is the point: Does he care enough for you to marry him?
Obviously the answer is NO - don't think about him this way.
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reader, bytex64 +, writes (16 June 2007):
 What, you didn't say yes, did you? The guy's obviously a bum. He didn't ask because he's not thinking of you. He's not thinking about the future. He's not thinking about your baby. Dump him on the next curb you find.
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