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writes:hiiyyyahhThis is to all those teens out there who want to be a mam or a dad in that case, this is written by a 14 year old who was 13 when was going through all this.I really wanted a baby at 13 and me and my bf who was 16 I got pregnant and went I took the pregnancy test I was in denial, I took 4 more after that all together i took 5. All went blue! It was then I realised I didn't want one, I kept it a secret for 2 weeks with only my bf and best mate knowing and one day my mam came and sat on my bed and I burst into tears and told her, and evan though I thought I wanted one you really don't and you won't believe this you just want someone who is yours forever to give you uncondional love, my mam was deeply disappointed in me and I realised she didn't want it so I got rid of it for me and my mam; my boyfriend broke up with me because I didn't keep it but from my point of view it was my body and I have friends who are 14 and because they are young and not developed they've torn down below in giving birth and it is meant to be realy painful..I realise now that I did not need a baby to make me happy and my concentration on my studies has brought me and my mother closer and if I had had the baby I would have missed out on so much, my own mum spending time with her, my mates the fun of being a teen, also if I had it I would have had no money for it I'm talking more then a few thousand a year... also when I'm older I'm setting a bad example to them.. I'm not saying teen mams are wrong but I wasn't ready to grow up that fast...Yeah I do sometimes wish I'd had it but I think I made the right decison what do you think?Leave comments and I will answer and write back thank you and make the right choice xxx
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reader, triedit  +, writes (8 March 2009):
 You and your mom have a fabulous relationship. Now it is even stronger. Trust her always, she loves you and only wants what is best for you. In the future, when you are thinking about something this life changing, trust her to be there for you and follow her advice.
You will always remember this loss. Having an abortion is a terrible step to have to take, but sometimes it is really the only answer that makes sense.
Good luck to you, and your mum has a wonderful daughter!
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reader, jorjax1x +, writes (27 February 2009):
jorjax1x is verified as being by the original poster of the question yea you can say forget about it but it is not that simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009): You made a very grown up and correct choice to not have that baby. You were to young to have a baby and I'm so glad u did not! Look at all the things you'd have missed out on. Please don't think about this anymore, move on and know your a good person who did the right thing.
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reader, Confined  +, writes (25 February 2009):
Not exactly I'm just the type of person who doesn't like abbortions it was your choice tho but I do think you prob done the right thing you might of gotten jinxed and had tripplets or something lol it was a hard choice
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reader, jorjax1x +, writes (25 February 2009):
jorjax1x is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsoo you sayingg you would have it at 13 when you have your whole life ahead of you and yeah you could give it for adoption but after all you would only be wrecking there life in doing that whats the good in a life in care .... i might as well of not had it dont you think?
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reader, Confined +, writes (25 February 2009):
Well I don't believe I abbortions you should have had it then put it up for addiption but ya you make a good point
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reader, brkn_hrted +, writes (23 February 2009):
you did the right thing. 13 is not the time to have a baby. frankly, im surprised you were even able to get pregnant. im usually really agaisnt abortion, even the thought of this makes me feel sick, but sometimes you have to do the best you can. and you did. well done =]
"they are young and not developed they've torn down below in giving birth" anyone, any age can tear there. its perfectly normal.
"settle down with your husband" hey, who needs husbands these days? men, yes. but marriage dosen't have to come first - try before you buy, right? lol
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reader, bigsucki +, writes (21 February 2009):
you are choosing the right choice i bet that the boy who was 16 wasnt as great as u thought he was and i dealt he was ready for a baby either he probably just wouldnt of thought it through
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): girl i think that you have done the right thing. wanting a baby and having a baby is totally two different things. i am glad you are back in school and study, and your mom is there with you all the way. it is not the time to focus on a baby. a baby takes more than what you plan for. think on your studies for now.and then a baby can come when you finish college, and decide to settle down with your husband then you can think of having a child.peace out and good luck with your class work and your studies. and you have a caring and loving mom.
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