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writes:hi im robby,i shall begin with my question and then explain some what would all you out there do ? how would you handle or deal with my situation ?i met a beautiful woman approx 2 years ago, during this time together we have shared all the emotions possible, we have both laughed at the same things, we have danced and partied the night away,and yet supported each other during our personal times of sorrow,hardship,challenge and controversy, which as anyone would expect has bought us closer together than ever, to the degree i have been considering proposing, as feeling love on all the levels love has, problem is this : recently {new year}my whole world fell apart when she began acting unusually and telling me what i was thinking and shouting at me saying i had said and done things that i know for sure had not occured,i even took to carrying a dictor phone recorder around in my pocket so i could be certain. the result has become that she got very angry saying i had let her down on arrangements so many times saying that i had done it just to hurt her and that i got pleasure from it, the truth is these arrangements were never made and i love her through to my soul, i,m devastated emotionally at her now having broken off our relationship and after several attempts to address the facts together she sent the police to me asking not to contact her any further,{which i have agreed to}. i think she may possibly be mentally unwell and ought to be assessed by a doctor of some sort, if i go round she goes nuts! the police say not to , so do i just turn and walk away from the woman i love at a time like this ? seems obsurd as love her so much, yet i can do very little else, but wait.....anyone have any thoughts on this ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (9 February 2010):
 So it seems you have your answer. Accept it and move on. No one knows what tomorrow brings. You can only live your life from day to day. Live it fully, live it whole. Live it with God. Patience and forgiveness can bring you peace within. Allow these and you will begin heal.
Blessings,
Blue_Angel0316
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reader, robby +, writes (9 February 2010):
robby is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell hi all, this is going to be kinda short, she said its guilt she has and cannot look me in the eye, is the reason for keeping me away from her, she has been bang out of order of which i shall not repeat, but to say sometimes those that we trust the most do the most damage is an understatement, "are enemy's will hide in the last place we will ever look"......in "our hearts and minds."revenge or retaliation is the work of an agressors apprentice of which i shall play no part, time is the healing tool for tomorrow, today.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): Contact with you seems to be causing her disress for some reason so its best to leave her well alone.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 February 2010):
Yes, walk away, no matter how painful. If she has problems that cause her to get the police to call on you, then the safest option you have is to walk away.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (5 February 2010):
Your love for this woman may be pushing her away. If you love stronger than she does it may be she can't handle this pressure.It's possible that something hormonal or chemical is going on. There is another option that she is either interested or seeing someone else. She blames you and cannot admit any wrongdoing in the relationship. On the other hand she could be delusional and or physcotic, perhpas suffering from Schezophreniaor some other mental condition. Something else to consider is wheter she may be addicted to or taking heavy drugs(prescription or recreational) or alcohol.
The best thimg is to try and steer clear until she come to deal with whatever is bothering her. As far as yourself get some conseling if needbe. You need to let your heart heal so you can deal with your end of this disheatining delima. If you stay away from her and allow this situation to quiten down, this might help her to feel lessed stressed and perhaps she will begin to act differently. If not don't allow youself to be drawn into this madness. It will surely drive you over the edge.
Peace is found in the Love of God don't waste precious moments wandering around needlessly waiting for someone's return, accept this time to know God and give yourself the moments of inner peace that you so richly deserve.
With Blessings,
Blue_Angel
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reader, OuToFtHeAsHeS89 +, writes (5 February 2010):
If the police are telling you to stay away then you probably should. If you still have contact with any of her family or maybe mutual friends then I would ask them to maybe keep a close watch on her. But aside from that theres not much you can do. Alot of times people have to find things out and experience things the hard way.
I know it hurts and its hard to hear... but it may just be your only option. But I would try talking to her family. Maybe someone who you feel would understand and side with you. Get them to keep an eye on her for any weird behavior. and If they see it... Have her committed...
Im sorry that you have to deal with this. I hope it helps.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (5 February 2010):
You might want to google sites dealing with people who suffer from Mood Disorders such as Bipolar Disorders, Manic /Depressives and Borderline Personality Disorders. Most Bipolar sufferers when they are in their state of mania are very good to be around but once the mood sets in things can be very confusing to their loved ones. I'm not saying that she is but look it up and see if any of it might apply.
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