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writes: I am not at all ready for a new relationship. I think it could be years before I want to get into something serious again (long story). So I'm wondering lately (because I love sex) if it would be a good idea to find someone who wants a purely sexual relationship. I could never go round having one night stands - somehow having one person seems much better than that to me. Has anyone had something like this before? Did it work? How did you get involved in it/meet the person?
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (5 February 2010):
 Such activity- sex without emotion or relationship is possible amongst animals, which is purely bio-chemical reaction of the body. Human intelligence cannot sustain it for long time. Sex is universal, but to experience it, one is bound to reduce it to personal individual level, by choosing someone for love. No matter one may feel shock for faking love, but such procedure is necessary for human being. It is so because nature of human mind is intellectual. Animal do not use sex, but it is their bio-chemical reactions. Nature has provide end, of procreation. For human, sex has spiritual end, which demand some emotional element, very well shaped to suit the spiritual end.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (5 February 2010):
 One caveat though. Don't trust any long-distance online romance. They lie.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (5 February 2010):
Well I've had many relationships over the years that would now be considered "friends with benefits." lol That term did not exist when most of mine occurred. Actually, I always wanted every relationship to be more, but whatever. To attempt an answer to your questions, yes it can work and be ok while it lasts. Where to find him? Well, just about anywhere. Possibly online, or a local pub/bar. Even a grocery store, library, music/video store . . . most anywhere I suppose. Try a smile.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 February 2010):
The only real worry so long as you're safe is that you either end up falling for the guy and end up hurt, or you end up feeling used.
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reader, OuToFtHeAsHeS89 +, writes (5 February 2010):
Ive tried to have a purely sexual relationship before. It didnt work for me. But thats because I cant seperate my emotions from sex. For me sex is a purely emotional experience. So before you try to have a purely sexual relationship you need to answer a few questions for yourself.
*Do you think you could be intimate with someone and not develope feelings for them?
*Is it something you really want?
*How are you going to find someone you like enough to sleep with but not have a relationship with?
Those are just a few questions to answer... but you need to really think about it before you make a decision because if you dont feel like your ready for a relationship then u may not be ready to have sex.
I hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): You can attempt it, but if you guys are having encounters on a regular basis, one or both of you will end up developing feelings. It's inevitable.
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