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writes:So me and my girlfriend have a great relationship and have been together for awhile and are even considering marriage but are waiting till we are more financially secure. This is regarding her sister and some of the foolish decisions she makes. So my GF's siter's previous BF was some trashy guy who was a pothead and didn't do anything else. My GF helped set them up but regretted it later. Her BF before that guy was a meth addict and even hit her in the face once. It took her two years to leave him. After my GF sister broke up with the last guy she went about a month and now says she has a new BF, one she has NEVER MET! It's someone she met on myspace and has texted for about two weeks or so that I know of. They have not spoken on the phone. Here's the kicker, she is 19 and this guy is 35 (so he says. . .). I've seen pictures of him and he looks 45. AND he has 3 children. Now she says she is going to travel 800 miles to LIVE with this guy. He's paying for the ticket and everything. Sounds like a booty call to me.To be honest, at this point I fear for her safety. I've heard to many terrible stories and I don't want her to get hurt or raped or anything. I have not said anything to my GF's sister but I have talked with my GF about it. My GF completely agrees but she feels her sister has to make her own decisions (which I agree with). The other day, I overheard my GF sister asking my GF to go with her when she first goes! I haven't talked to my GF about it but there is no way I can let my GF go into this dangerous situation because of her sister. My GF told her she didn't want to go but I could see her agreeing for her if she kept asking. This is insane right? Is it wrong of me to put my foot down when it comes to my GF going? Am I overreacting? So far she hasn't brought it up and she doesn't know that I know. I've been staying out of it. . .
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reader, Biff160 +, writes (4 March 2009):
Biff160 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your suggestions. I think I am going to talk with my GF and not the sister right now, maybe later but not now. I am just going to ask if she wants to go with her sister and I will explain my concerns. My GF has always been very good at listening to me and she is a very good person who is just trying to look out for her sister.
If she is really adamant about going with her sister maybe I will go too. I really don't like the idea of going on a trip that I know is going to be a problem. I also found out the guy doesn't want to come down here to meet us and her parents. This is so stupid and obviously a con. I really don't her to get hurt physically or emotionally. My GF has even tried to tell her things such as "what if he is really married?" and I even brought up "Why is it he can't/hasn't found someone where he lives?"
Anyway, I am going to talk with my GF and protect her no matter what. I can't say as much for the sister because she is responible for what she does. Should I say something to the sister anyway? My GF and her family has always come to me for advice and they listen to me. I think I could actually make an impact.
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reader, glam231 +, writes (4 March 2009):
 you should tell her your suspicions and the other people said you should urge her not to go REMEMBER ALWAYS PROTECT YOUR GIRLFRIEND
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (4 March 2009):
 This sounds very dodgy!
Convince your girlfriend to go along and you should tag along too, I mean if he loves her sister, and is planning to move in together, then getting to know the family is expected!
Then at least you have met him and if or is the worst case, you can protect them both.
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reader, sexylinz +, writes (4 March 2009):
 if ur gf insists on going with her sister offer to go with them then you can also check the guy out and keep an eye on them. the guy will be less likely to try anything with another guy around!
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reader, enjoimx +, writes (4 March 2009):
 How do 35 year old divorced men with three children pick up 19 year old girls over the internet via myspace, when I cant even get a date at the local bar? J/K
But yeah...this is completely insane...i would strongly urge your GF's sister not to go meet this guy and maybe even try to communicate with the guy telling him your concern and see how he reacts. Then maybe call the police.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (4 March 2009):
 You're right to protect your girlfriend but don't get involved too much. People make their own desicions! Why don't you go along aswell, or put your foot down with your girlfriend! X
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