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writes:Hi everybody! Sorry if my English isn't that good.Here is a problem. I have been dating this girl for about 4,5 years from which we lived together some 2 years (when I was working in the same city where she is living). It was a year from that and we have been in a distant relationship for about a year. We have been together every weekend in that period. Seven days ago we broke up. She was unhappy because she wanted to get married and live with me and I was reluctant to do that, but when I saw that I am going to lose her I have tried everything and I also promise her marriage but nothing seems to work. At one day she would agree to stay with me but in another she would hesitate, saying that I am too late and that she doesn't have enough confidence in me. Finally I flipped out when I saw that she is in contact with some guy who seems to be potential 'replacement' for me and I insulted her and that was an end. I must mention that in our relationship she was always the one who loved more, and always the one who cared more, but now it seems that we have switch places. Since that day I told her that I don't wanna hear her again but almost everyday she contacts me for some reason, and insisting that if I need something I can call her, or we can someday go for a coffee, be friends itc. I am acting like I am angry, don't wanna talk to her but we all know the thruth... :-((((What should I do ? I miss her so much.. I think that she miss me too.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (4 March 2009):
 Tell her how you feel! X
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): Take Star.x's advice and forget any anger or pride and just tell her you are in love with her and never stopped loving her. Before you do this, make certain that it is really her you want and love and not just injured pride.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): I would try once, but realize you will lose your dignity when and if she denies you.
It is probable that she will deny you, but what the hell. Might as well give it one last shot since you love her.
If it doesnt work after you speak your heart, stop worrying about it. You cannot beat yourself up about "what you did wrong" or "what you could have done to win her back"
She will either accept or deny, probably deny. Once that happens, cut all communication for a couple months, move on, and then you two will probably be friends in the future.
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reader, LilWun23  +, writes (4 March 2009):
evidentally she does miss you and honestly the only thing that will happen to you if you consist on acting like this and treating her bad she WILL stop calling or texting you and not want anything to do with you. if you really love her, you need to everything you can to win her heart back
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): you have to make one last final attempt to fix this.
You have to tell her - directly not on the phone, that you love her, that your sorry really sorry. that you wish you could rewind what has happened and that you want to spend the rest of your life with her. I would not pleased or anything just state how you feel.
I would get over your pride, the anger etc. talk from the heart.
If she says yes (and she might not immeadeataly) then great - if not then you have tried and that is good. You will walk away with your head held high that you tried. If you love her you will find strength to do this.
Star.x.
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