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*ovexkiss
writes:I think my fience is cheating on me.we've been together 3 years.we havent seen much of each other,one day a week because of work commitments...but hes been strange,distant and doesnt want to kiss me anymore (apprently because my breath smells) (IT DOESNT BTW)anyways me and my dad dropped him of at his house last night he gave me a hug and a kiss...then as soon as I got in the car he was on his phone straight away..(apprently to his brother to open the house door)but then we drove past this girl with blonde hair on this corner of his road with a mobile phone talking,this was at 9.30pm and knowbody was about at this time (his area is pretty quiet and ive never seen this girl before and knows she doesnt live near on his estate anyways and we both looked at her (me and my dad) then she turned away quick sooo we couldnt see her face,like she was shocked..like he said there on there way past hide!! soooo im just wondering should i be paranoid??I dont know what the difference is I have blonde hair,and dress near enough the same to her..very strange??you think hes cheating on me???Please let me know im going crazy over this
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reader, lovexkiss +, writes (20 October 2009):
lovexkiss is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell ive told him about this and hes now saying he is paranoid about losing me,which if you wud be you would be distant? im sooo confused,but hes is trying a little better..but still..!!and yesterday he rang me then he was playing on xbox live,and after he spoke he forgot to put the phone down and i could hear him pplaying on his game and then saying yeh it was hayley i couldnt be bothered talking to her :( (made me feel rubbish) then i confronted him and told him i heard what he said,and he said he only said it cos he was talking to the guys and trying to be cool..??. either way im engaged to him and he is meant to love me!! i am really starting to doubt this realtionship x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): Hi. Have a talk to him and say you feel hes becoming distant and there are a few things youre worried about. Ask to see his phone. If he wont let you look at it then there probably is something to worry about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): wow! you guys have been dating for 3 years and you cant look at his phone.. that is a big red flag and i have to agree with most of the other posters. you should sit down and talk with him and ask him what is up.. there is obviously a big lack of trust between you two and if things were different before but now have changed.. then maybe a serious heart to heart is in order.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 October 2009):
I still think you need to sit down with him. Though it's easy to assume you're acting over the top or you're paranoid, he has changed in his approach to you. Sit him down and talk to him.
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reader, lovexkiss +, writes (4 October 2009):
lovexkiss is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell he doesnt even let me look at his phone for a start!!!
ive never seen this girl before in my life!!
and hes been taking to a girl recently on facebook,but she has no photo and you cant get on her profile because its set to private?
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reader, Accountable +, writes (4 October 2009):
 Honestly, you may be being a little paranoid - I think the deeper issue here is a lack of trust between you and your fiancee. Do you really think he's the sort to cheat? Because if so i'd really consider whether youre willing to commit to him for the rest of your life, if you don't think hes willing to do the same!
None of us can tell you with any certainty whether he is cheating or not - just sit down with him and let him know that you're feeling worried that he's getting more distant, and ask him openly whether he's been messing around. Maybe hes just been tired from work and isnt aware that you're feeling like he's moving away? I wouldnt immediately accuse him of cheating, it could be any number of much less nasty things, you'll only know if you have a proper conversation with him about :)
good luck, hope everything works out!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2009): well, there is not alot to go on but it does seem suspicious, he won't kiss you and then they are both on the phone. It sounds to me like she knows of you and they had it planned to meet up after he was to be dropped off. did he ask to be dropped off at that time? what are the odds you can see his phone bill? or his phone to check his calls and see who he was talking to at that time. I suggest before you open a can of worms you do some investigating. and yes i would use his phone to call her... see how she answers the phone to him... (hello sweetie, honey, sexy ).... then i would hang up and keep hanging up on her. cause she will call back... freak her out make her text his phone and see what she has to spill without you actually doing anything. i would not let her know its you though... make her think its him.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 October 2009):
Well, if he's acting distantly and insulting you and you're supposed to be getting married, that would be a good place to start. You need to sit him down and get him to talk about what's happening.
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