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writes:i need urgent help, please. i made a very big mistake. i cheated on my boyfriend. it started off just texting and emailing, then lead to meeting up and kissing. the guy i had an affair with has kept all the texts and one photo. he wont delete them. people have been talking and its got around to my boyfriend. i cant tell him, if i tell him the truth i will lose my boyfriend and although i probably dont deserve him, i love him and i cant lose him, we are so good together, i cant lose him! but people are making him suspicious and im scared he will find out the truth and i will lose the most important person in my life. the guy i had an affair with hates me cos i chose my boyfrirend over him so wont delete anything, help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): believe me when i say telling him and seeing the look on his face will be one of the the hardest thing ever. But if you want a chance you have to be honest. You will have a better chance of making it if tell him. If you lie and then he finds out, you will have 2 issues to overcome.good luck sweetie
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): you are writing the end of your love story with your bf if you don't confess NOW. CHEATING no matter what the excuse , there is really no justification for it. you knew what you were doing with the other guy. you played along. and thought you would not get caught.
the writings on the wall. it is only a matter of time before your bf gets to the bottom of the truth. you have a choice- either you tell him or he will find out from someone else (get concrete proof). 3 guesses what he will then do!
time to grow up and realise that actions have consequences. you thought you could fool around and your bf will be one the wiser. there is never a smart fool.
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (4 October 2009):
 Cheating is NEVER a mistake. It is a conscious decision. A selfish one. Not only that but it is selfish of you to even think about keeping it from him for your own reasons.
Being an adult means accepting consequences for our actions.
You cant possible love your man and cheat on him...That is INSANE!
GROW UP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2009): well I know you don't want to hear this but, i agree with the first poster.. you may loose him forever but if you lie and get found out your going to loose him and kill any chance of reconciliation.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 October 2009):
I won't lie to you. You're going to be found out. He's kept the photo, the texts and resents the fact that you didn't go with him. You have two choices. You either tell your boyfriend yourself and deal with the consequences, or you let somebody else tell him, he sees the photo and the texts and it's made even worse. Face up to it now, not later. It would be better coming from you that anyone else. If he fins out that you cheated, then didn't tell him, he'll be even more likely to dump you. You have to own up and that's it. Hopefully, he'll give you a second chance, if not, then you'l have to move on.
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