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writes:So I was wondering can you like a guy but not be attracted to them?Hope that doesn't sound rude...I like guys for their personalities, but most of the time I also consider them somewhat attractive.But I met this guy here at college...he sits behind me/marches beside me in band. We spend the whole football game just talking and laughing, and I like it. We have things in common and hes always a fun person to talk to, I just love talking to him...but I'm not like physically attracted to him. I have a feeling he likes me to because he flirts a lot, and its pretty obvious. Hes such a sweetie; but I was wondering if this would ever interfere if we ended up dating?Hopefully this doesn't so rude .
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 October 2009):
This really is just a friendship thing. You sound more like his big sister! Be a good friend to him, that's all. And as for your friends who are getting married, there is no rush. Better to find the right guy once, than the wrong guy twice. :) If you're not attracted to him physically, there really is no point in taking it further. You're good friends, that's all. I'd leave it that way.
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reader, Kalyov +, writes (4 October 2009):
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I also feel very protective of him...a girl in band who is pretty much a "player" she had 3 bf's at one time and are still dangling them around, likes him.
I've warned him about her nature and he told me "don't worry, I know...she can try all she wants but it will not happen."
And then there is this...well I do flirt with him back...and I've been asking myself what I should say if he ever asked me out.
Like I can see us together but I dont know if it would be a long term thing since well I dont picture myself kissing him, more just cuddling/sitting close and talking.
Is that where I'm mixed up? Like its an odd friendship thats confusing me or what? .
I am currently looking for a guy, I'm at that age where all my friends are getting married and I'm the only single one...could that also be making me confused?
And I suppose that wouldn't be nice to him if we got together, because I'm thinking about the future and looking for someone I can spend it with...?
Also there's this...I'm a Jr. hes a Freshmen...I'm 21 and hes 19 (maybe not a bad thing but the last guy I dated was 19 and turned out to be very child-ish)
So yes I like him...but maybe for the wrong; like reasons as you say just friendship? or Do I just think I like him? and again I suppose it wouldn't be nice to date someone I'm not physically attracted to.
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reader, Kalyov +, writes (4 October 2009):
Kalyov is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI also feel very protective of him...a girl in band who is pretty much a "player" she had 3 bf's at one time and are still dangling them around, likes him.
I've warned him about her nature and he told me "don't worry, I know...she can try all she wants but it will not happen."
And then there is this...well I do flirt with him back...and I've been asking myself what I should say if he ever asked me out.
Like I can see us together but I dont know if it would be a long term thing since well I dont picture myself kissing him, more just cuddling/sitting close and talking.
Is that where I'm mixed up? Like its an odd friendship thats confusing me or what? .
I am currently looking for a guy, I'm at that age where all my friends are getting married and I'm the only single one...could that also be making me confused?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 October 2009):
No it isn't rude. I like a lot of girls, but I don't really fancy them. This sounds more like a good friendship rather than any kind of relationship, and I would keep this way, because if you're not attracted to him, he's not really the guy for you. Yes, he does like you, so don't give him any wrong signals. If he ever does say anything, simply say that he is a great friend and nothing more.
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