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writes:I think I have found a soulmate, however I don't think we were meant to be together as we have a very large age difference. I think that as the older person I am meant to help her in some way. Why do I think we are soulmates? Well, our likes are so close sometimes it seems scary (ie favorite animals White lions and Tigers, favorite sandwich, cucumber-avocado, we like the same music, and the list goes on). From the time we met, I have felt a connection to her, and I believe she has felt one to me based on things she has said. I am not talking about a sexual connection here however, I am talking about a soul connection. You may laugh, but I REALLY feel I know her outside of this life and do not at all believe that our finding each other was an accident. My question is, how do I figure out what I am supposed to do to help her. With a 35 plus year age difference, it is clearly not to be together at this time, however, make no mistake I do believe we were brought together at this time for some reason. Any ideas or help would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, Psychosteph  +, writes (3 July 2013):
I've been in the same position, She 28 yrs my juniour, after yrs of me being unsure what the purpose of this was I decided to tell her that I had to move on in the hope of meeting a partner to have a relationship with. At this point she became very jealous and appeared at my door with very revealing clothing on her, all the time since I had met her I discovered that She had a massive crush on me but was too shy to say and was scared of rejection. On that night we we made love together and since then we have been together as a couple, it all feels so natural now, we both laugh at the fact it took us so long to reveal our true feelings to each other. I say go for it, She has came into your life for a reason and in my experience girls won't waste time on you unless they are looking for love. Good luck and don't listen to the haters.
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reader, frankie1963 +, writes (6 June 2013):
Hi, I joined just to answer this question. It is very overwhelming to meet your true soulmate or twinflame what it is actually called. We all have many soulmates who can be similar in some or many ways but the twinflame you are the same. Each and every one of us has only 1 twinsoul or twinflame. What you described with this girl is the twinflame connection. I am 100% sure. Most people are not physical and or sexual with their twin. From reading many stories and speaking with others and doing research, there is almost always a large age gap, or a family member, it can be deceased person or lives in another dimension or planet. Lol, atleast you live on the same planet as your twin. Thank goodness I did as well. I know it sounds weird but true for some people. Always, always, STAY in her life. It is a beautiful addicting and pure love that you can never forget. I hope this helps
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reader, Bryanp +, writes (3 May 2013):
Bryanp is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOuch, I spent an hour deciding whether or not to post that, and I have to say that was painful. I have to say, I am under absolutely no illusion that we are meant to be together in this life, however I have always heard that soulmates are not always put here to be together, but often to help each other progress in some way. I am going to expand on what I said earlier. As the first responder said, I have met countless people in my life, with similar likes,
and never thought anything about it, however, this is the first time I have ever felt like I was meant to notice those things, and she basically told me the same thing. She also told me she had written something on her facebook page which was very important to her and she wanted me to see. Basically it said never be afraid to say something to someone that you want too, so that you never live your life in regret at having not done so. I would NEVER interfere in any way with her life, and I do not believe she needs (nor has she ever requested)my help in a financial way, but rather I feel am am supposed to help her in a spiritual way. I am not some pervert, I am a very spiritual person. I am 61 now and yes I have been in a long term relationship before, I was married for 22 years and have several children whom I love very much. I doubt I have that many years left on this earth, and I very much much want to take care of the things I am meant to accomplish, perhaps some of those things I am just supposed to figure out on my own. I am genuinely sorry to those who felt I wasted their time with this, or those who thought this was some perverted crush. For my purposes, I will treat her like an extra daughter while I am here (and by the way she has become friends with my daughters), and will always help her in any way that I can. I came here for advice and help that someone might have, on where they thought I might have been meant to help her, not in hopes that someone would give me justification to try to be with her. Anyway, I wish everyone the best in their lives, and again, I am sorry to those I might have offended.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 May 2013):
 Pardon me, OP, but I happen to be crazy about big felines ( lions, tigers- and panthers, don't forget panthers ). And I eat an unordinate amount of both cucumbers and avocados, although generally not in a sandwich. Are you going to help me too ? can I ask you anything- even money ?
And, what makes you think she needs help ? Did she say so ? what kind of help ?Financial,practical,psychological,spiritual ?
And , since you are on the same wavelength and both like tigers etc.... how come she does not want to help YOU ? It should work both ways. What help is SHE going to give you ?
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (3 May 2013):
 Well I do wonder why you think she needs help? If she is a happy young woman with a good life what value do you think you could add?
Being friends is no problem, as you said your 35 year age gap is simply too much to overcome to ever be in a relationship, but remaining friends shouldnt be a problem unless you start holding her back from meeting someone closer to her own age and settling down.
I'd stop worrying about this 'cosmic connection' so much and try and come back down to planet earth. There probably isnt much you can do to help her, as a young woman she will have her own life to lead and will do as she pleases - she doesnt need an older man telling her what she should and should not be doing. Be there for her as a friend, enjoy her friendship and support her if she ever needs supporting, but stop trying to read more into this than really exists.
From what you have said all you share is lots in common - I have lots in common with hundreds if not thousands of people I'm sure, it doesnt mean I should be in a relationship with them or that they are my 'soul mate'. I have loads in common with my best friends, hence why they are my best friends.
So I really do think you are running away with your fantasy here, you know this can never be more than friendship so accept it for what it is, enjoy it and let her live her life without trying to 'help' her, she probably doesnt need your help and is a capable young woman without you.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 May 2013):
 How old is she? Help her? Help her in what way? Why do you think she needs help? How old are you? Have you ever been in a long term relationship?
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