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writes:Hi friends, I am 17 now, boy. I just want to share my story and ask for help. Last year I met this guy(but only through Facebook). He was so far from where I am living right now but we are on the same country. When I saw his pictures I felt something weird inside of me, love at first sight in short. We were able to be a good friends until I ask for his number. He was so good to me and I think even to his friends. Months have been passed and we're getting to know each other. So my feelings for him is now developing more and more. I think I love him now. Every night I was thinking him. But there are times that I feel jealous when he posted photo with someone else. But then I realize lately that this is all wrong. So I deactivated my Facebook account to forget him and not to see his post and him. I decided to rest about 1 month. I am observing what I will feel without him. He did not text me and ask why I deactivated my account. So 1 month passed, I'm back. 2 days after I reactivated my account he chatted me. He said "I miss you :(". So I feel so flattered because he miss me. But honestly my feelings to him not changed. I still love him. So I'm very confused, is he a bi or gay? But months passed and the time has come, he said to me that he is Bi through text. So I was freaked out! I don't know what to say. I don't know if I'm going to be happy or sad. So my question is I am a bi also because I really really like him and I also like girls? Is it good to ask him if he also likes me? Should I love him even if I know him only in Facebook and we're not seen each other yet personally? Please help me.
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reader, der_zyniker  +, writes (5 May 2013):
Forget about him. The age difference is too big right now.
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reader, NumbRoman +, writes (5 May 2013):
NumbRoman is verified as being by the original poster of the question der_zyniker Thanks for your advice. I think it helps. :) But do I need to let him go, forget him or ask him to meet me somewhere so I can tell what my feelings are. Or should I not do that because of my age. By the way he is 5 years older than me.
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reader, der_zyniker +, writes (5 May 2013):
You seem like someone that leads with your heart, which isn't a bad thing, but I think the best thing to do is try to analyze the situation without taking your feelings into account. What is the most logical thing to do? Most people your age don't really know what love is yet. I'm a few years older, and I have loved someone before, but I don't know much about love either. What I can tell you is when you fall for someone, you don't say "I think I love them" because that means you're not sure. When you fall in love with someone, you typically don't have any doubt. You just know. But back to the problem at hand. If you two live far enough away that you have never met him in person, what is the point in telling him about this? Sure you like him, but it just doesn't seem practical to pursue him. In all likelihood, all that would happen is you'd get your feelings hurt. I think you need to let him go before your feeling for him become stronger. If you have to break off contact with him, then so be it, but I can tell you it's going to take more than 1 month for these feelings to go away. And breaking off contact still won't be enough. You don't truly start to get over someone until you give up on any hope that you will ever be with them. I know that this isn't what you want to hear. I was in a somewhat similar situation a couple years ago and people kept telling me to forget about one of my friends that I fell in love with, but I didn't listen to them because it that wasn't what I wanted to hear. Looking back, I wish I had listened to what those people had told me. As far as whether or not you're bi, none of us know you personally. We can't tell you if are or not. That is a question only you can answer, but don't worry. You'll figure it out in the next couple years. This is something that's going to take time.
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reader, NumbRoman +, writes (4 May 2013):
NumbRoman is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat should I do now guys? Stop talking to him? Block his account? I'm so upset right now. I don't know what to do. :((
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reader, NumbRoman +, writes (4 May 2013):
NumbRoman is verified as being by the original poster of the questioniAmHereToHelpYou no he did not message me. :(
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