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writes:I think I'm too self-conscious to orgasm. I've orgasmed in the past with previous boyfriends but with my current one, whenever he pleasuring me it feels good but then it starts to feels really intense and sensitive and rather than come, I start trying to get him to stop as it feels so intense (I don't mean painful dw) Why am I so self-conscious, it's almost as if I sub-consciously don't want to orgasm which isn't the case.
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (25 February 2010):
 I'm not sure if it is the same thing that happens to me, but from how it sounds it is. Like the second poster said, it is just too sensitive and you can't go right into it. I also am not able to recieve oral sex immediately as it is far too sensitive. Having sex first has always helped me or any other kind of foreplay before him going down. I don't think it is that you don't want to come. Also he may be focusing on one spot and doing the same motions. Mixing it up and doing different movements will help a lot. Because one thing he is doing can start out feeling amazing but after awhile of the same thing it starts too get "too good" and just over sensitive. So that may be what it is and what you need to do. Helped me out a lot.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (25 February 2010):
 The second anonymous reader probably has this right. Most women prefer a good deal of foreplay prior to intercourse or any direct stimulation, especially of the clitoris. Unfortunately, many guys are a bit too eager to get to the point (so to speak).
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reader, caterpillarchapstick +, writes (25 February 2010):
i don't have an answer but my girlfriend is exactly as you describe. she gets on top and right before her orgasm she stops, collapses, soemtimes shakes or tears up, but never having a full orgasm. she says it's too intense and she absolutely can't take it. it has been a year and i am beginning to wonder if she ever will be able to. i had a previous girlfriend that had a similar issue but over time, i think as her body matured, she became more physically able to orgasm but they were always very intense ending with her crying a lot from what she described as an explosion of emotions. for you maybe the sex is just a lot better than you have ever had before and you need time for your body to adapt to this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): I have the exact same problem! its weird- sometimes its fine, but sometimes it gets so intense and sensitive that i have to tell him to stop- i think its because i'm either too stressed to relax and enjoy what is happening, or we haven't done much foreplay or warming up. I.e- he goes straight for the pleasure zone right away, and its almost like I'm too sensitive. It doesn't usually happen if we spend a lot of time flirting with each other or kissing before hand. Maybe that would help, easing into to it a bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): i know exactly what you mean, i have exactly the same problem,,, no matter how many times i try to show him it just doesn't feel right. how i overcame it was by stimulating myself when he is going from behind or try pushing and grinding against him if you are on top... a bit detailed i know sorry for being rude,,, just hope it kinda helps.
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