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*iva009
writes:I'm 18 and in college..I'm a Muslim so being bi is frowned upon by everyone..it's hard enough having to keep sucha big secret from my friends and family but now I'm having feelings for my cousins wife, they've been married for 3 years now no children..she's a lovely girl..I also love my cousin but lately all I do is think about my cousins wife..sometimes I feel like she also may have feelings for me because of the things she says but it's not clear if she does have feelings for me..I'm still a virgin and only recently realised I'm bi..soo could it be that I don't really like her??..but I just want What she has with my cousin..?ahh I'm really confused, I think I should try gettin with a girl to really see if I'm bi..but I'm not sure how to approach one :/ i just wanna be with her!!..do you think I should let her know?? This sounds wrong but I only want a little fun with her..nothing serious cuz I know I wanna marry a guy..sometimes I talk too much and some people I know know think I'm into chicks but I always deny it..we sometimes flirt as a joke infront of everyone..but I actually feel what I'm sayin.
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reader, Drat001 +, writes (29 December 2010):
Viva, that's the right thing to do. There are some movies you might enjoy on this topic: Fire, Chutney Popcorn, I Can't Think Straight, Fremde Haut. Most movies on this subject aren't about Muslim women (they're about Indian women), but Indian cultures can be just as oppresive on women as Arabic cultures. The thing to remember is to in all things 1) don't do anything that could harm someone else, 2) don't do anything that could harm yourself. If you ever decide to have a relationship with another woman, unless you have more liberal relatives, it would be best to move as far away from your family as possible. It's hard, I know, but it very well could be a matter of your own safety that they don't know, or at least can't do anything harmful to you. Also, please, please, PLEASE do NOT marry a man if you find yourself more attracted to women, or even if you find yourself at all atracted to women in a way that you would miss being with them. I have seen several marriages destroyed, and children seriously messed-up because one spouse decided they couldn't deny they were attracted to the same sex. Be 100% certain before you take your vows that you will never want to have sex with anyone else but your spouse.
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reader, Viva009 +, writes (25 September 2010):
Viva009 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well thanks everyone!..after Reading all the comments iv decided to not telling her or anybody else that I'm bi..but i shall be looking out for another girl to be with.. (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): I can appreciate your curiosity but she is a married woman, to your cousin no less. What you're asking essentially 'would it be right to cheat on my cousin with his wife'. No.
However, being confused sexually like this isn't good. Never ever feel bad for who you are. If your family or friends can't accept your life choices that's their problem not yours. You've just got to remember, you're a good person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): DO NOT discuss this with a family member. You could face serious repercussions in your community.
You should explore your Bi side via a method that will allow you to meet girls with the same interest. Find an internet dating site that caters to bi women seeking the same. I would only resort to Criags list after trying other sites.
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reader, Katie-Lynn  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 I say approach another woman first just to know for sure.
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reader, radiolay  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 I don't think you should tell her, it would just complicate things further. What you should do is not feel bad for being bisexual. It's not something you ca
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