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writes:Hello, i really need help. I think i might be in love, or at least very close to it. I know this sounds like a typical soppy teenager, but i really dont throw that word around. This guy i met - he's awesome, and he makes me feel all fuzzy, and i could go into loads of details, but anyone out there who's ever felt like this knows what i mean. I've known him like...5 months, but i felt like this straight away. The problem is, he does see me in the same way. In fact I think he'd barely even call me a friend. I tried to get over him, but i just cant. Do i have to be prettier, or cooler? What do i do? This is like, a big deal, im losing my mind here :L thank you everyone x Reply to this Question
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reader, cheers  +, writes (31 August 2011):
 Come on! You are fine & a pretty girl.Be confidence! what you lack of now is the courage. Build it up,my dear.
If you like the guy, pls join his activities to get closer. Then approach him to tell that you'd a crush with him. He needs to know this as you can't simply expect people to able to read your mind.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (31 August 2011):
Hi there. What you are describing here is a crush.
You are liking him from afar.
Do you talk at all to each other? Or not at all?
If you are in a situation where you see each other at school every day, well then the best way would be to start looking at him as you walk past him - and see if he looks back.
A way of showing someone you like them is usually by eye contact.
If when you walk past him (supposing it's at school), see if when you look at him, if he looks back you and notice what kind of expression he has in his eyes. Interested or otherwise.
It's quite possible that he has no idea you are interested in him. So you are going to have to make him aware of you by doing this - walking past him and looking into his eyes.
Don't do it at every opportunity, because that's too obvious. Just once or twice a day at the most. Otherwise, he might get annoyed.
And if you do this every day, eventually you might like to give him a friendly little smile and see if he smiles back at you. If he does, he might also be interested in you.
And all being well over time - a week or 2 - you could even venture out and say - "Hi." (and smile as well.) - and see if he says hi back to you.
The point I'm making is that you do it in steps. Little bit by little bit.
You will soon be able to gauge whether he feels something for you, by his actions.
Who knows, maybe he's been secretly watching you as well, when you didn't know it was happening.
In any case, time will tell.
However, doing nohing and just liking him from a distance without him being aware of it, won't get you to knowing him. So it requires action from you. You can be the ice breaker and get some communication happening.
Don't try and rush it though. Don't try and make things happen in an instant. Let it just happen naturally.
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