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male
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30-35,
*ntPain
writes:Dear Cupid, right now I have no idea what to do. Anyone that can give me words of comfort, advice or anything would help me so much. I will try to explain what has happened as best I can and show how i feel as much as possible.Basically, it all started in January, I met this girl Sophie through and friend...the second we met it was an instant connection like ive felt with no-one else. Every moment with her was precious to me, we could talk for hours when i met her even though it was her birthday party with all her friends.We kissed on her birthday, and the day after; in our eyes we were together. Then a week or so later we decided to go out, we made love that night; not because shes easy or because i forced her....just because it felt so right to do it. The next two months i went out with her was the happiest i have ever been, i remember everything and all the amazing times we had. We lit a chinese latern and watched it fly away together with our names written on it, we could sit and talk for hours about nothing, i would sleep at her house and i lay there as she fell asleep in my arms. Her parents liked me when all her previous boyfriends were hated and i met all her family even her friends from school.Then, the perfect love story ended. She became distant during exams and couldnt handle a relationship and school, she decided she had to make the choice that was best for her. When this happened i went off the rails; i got drunk, high and sobbed for 8 days straight, i had my family worried about me and my friends had no way to comfort me either.But then, in June i went to see her because i tried to move on and kissed someone. The second i saw her there on her front doorstep where i first met her, i just wanted to kiss her, to smile and to hold her like i did before. Then, after talking, she wanted me back...I said yes...we started to be together again for a week but then...i freaked out, i got so scared of her leavig me again, so i did it first, i said i couldnt do it, she tried to convince me but i thought it was best for me. I led her on and felt so guilty. She then was interested in someone else a few weeks later and I told her to go for it because she had a right to be happy. I'm friends with the guy so i know hes nice.So here we are, Ive tried to move on since this girl....kissed someone - it just didnt feel right - asked someone else out - i got turned down and i didnt even care. Now i just feel lonely.Someone then asked me 'Do you have any regrets?' I said no, that everything ive done has led me to where i am today. But the truth is I'm not happy, I am so...so sad everytime my mind isnt occupied I just think of her and how much i want to be with again. My one regret is didnt have the courage to stay with Sophie, my perfect perfect girl.I dont know what to do, no-one makes me feel the way she made me feel, no-one has ever made me feel so wanted and loved and no-one has ever understood me like she did. I dont know whether to try and get her back because i feel bad because she's sort of with this other guy but not quite or whether this empty feeling will just go away. I just feel that no other girl takes my breath away like she did and that i never will be as happy as i was with her. Someone please help...you have no idea ho much i need it.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (31 August 2011):
 Try and get her back. You are both older now and wiser so go for it.
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reader, cheers  +, writes (31 August 2011):
 Pls calm down and think clearly to move on.
Things turned out this way cos lack of understanding & communication to each other. This's a hard learning point for you. pls don't repeat same mistake!
Time will make you a wiser person, more mature, able to make RIGHT decisions and as an experience guy
all the best
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