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writes:Hi, I'm 15 years old and I went out with this 16-year-old guy last year for about 3 months. We then broke up because he was always busy working and with school and we barely saw each other. We didn't see or speak to each other for almost 7 months and a few weeks ago he showed up at my house. When we did go out, I was the one always calling him, he always said he couldn't get in touch cause he was busy, he seemed like he didn't really care but yet when I was with him, it seemed like I'm the only person in his world. So when he came by my house, we decided to go to the movies few days after that. He was late picking me up. When he dropped me off, he kissed me. Then I didn't hear from him til like 11 pm the next day. We went out a few times after that and he told me he likes me and when he's with me he wants to hold my hand and hug but...he doesn't want a relationship. It's been 5 days since I've heard from him, I called and texted and heard nothing back. It's killing me because I think I am in love with him. My friends keep telling me I deserve better. But I really like him. I don't know what to do! Is he interested and just doesn't know how to put me first or is he playing?
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reader, kaylaaarg  +, writes (19 July 2007):
He is not a player, he just does not share the same feelings that you feel for him. I know it sucks, but you need to let him go. "Not Interested" really does mean "Not Interested" and you should be thankful he actually told you - a lot of guys would not have the balls to be that honest.Kayla
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (19 July 2007):
 It's o.k. to love someone who doesn't reciprocate the feeling. After all, it's how you feel. Try to keep in mind that he's only 16 and really not yet a man. Maybe with time he will be a man, girls mature faster than boys and look at relationships differently. Don't forget, you need to look out for number one. What are you getting from this relationship? Does it make you happy? Do you feel loved? Is this someone that you would truly like to share your thoughts and feelings with? Is this someone you want to invest your time in? If you answered yes to these questions, then tell him how you feel.
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reader, kristinakutie +, writes (19 July 2007):
 i'm sorry that this is happening to you hun. take it from me, it sucks.. all i can say is that if you really love the guy like i used to love my guy.. no matter what anyone says or tells you to do. you most likely wont listen to them but all i can say is, go with what you feel.. go with what your heart says. sure you might end up getting hurt, but i can promise you, you'll never regret it if it happens.. only if it doesnt. you will most likely hurt if/when it all comes to an end but you'll be glad you went along for the ride. you mite learn a lott from it too.. good luck hun =] sorry i couldnt help you much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): i dont really think ur in love with him i think ur just crushing on him really bad and im sorry to say this but he is a player, if he liked u like he said he did he would find the time to call or text u no matter how busy he can be.
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reader, LISAG +, writes (19 July 2007):
 Listen to your friends, they are on your side. He sounds like a player to me and believe me, men put you first always when they are interested. WHen they are interested, they are the ones doing all the phoning, texting, calling round, thinking up ideas for dates and how to spend more time with you!
"Not interested in a relationship" is EXACTLY THAT - NOT INTERESTED. Sorry to say but this man has told you outright. Everyone knows how to put other people first - you don't have to "learn" it - it's in all of our early social learnings. "I like you" is not "I love you". "Busy" without an explanation, is another word for "it's none of your business". He may well be "busy" with another girl.
I'd get looking for someone else who's not so "busy" and who chases after you instead of vice versa, you may feel in love, but you won't be at this very very early stage in a relationship. Trust me this man sounds like no good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): Im just gonna tell you this straight up hun... hes playing... if he loved you back he would try harder... there are plenty more fish in the sea and u can do SO much better!!!
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