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writes:I'm only 13 and I feel really bad because I seem to fancy my teacher and she is a woman. I go to a girls' school and rumours fly fast so I don't dare say anything to my friends because I would feel extremely embarassed and I could be overheard. When I see her I don't seem to like her that much, but when she's not there I can't stop thinking of her.
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reader, Jada95  +, writes (28 September 2014):
I also like my teacher. She's 28,single,and straight.What sucks is that i told her i liked her and i got taken out of he class way year. ....but that's not the worst part,im gonna have her as my ACT Prep English teacher. Its awkward between us now.
But my advice is.....try to ignore those feelings as best as you can,so that what happened to me doesn't happen to you. If she looks at you,just smile and then focus on your homework. If she asks you a question,answer it and then go back to whatever it was that you were doing before that....as long as it doesn't get you in trouble with her.
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reader, FLORALXOX +, writes (4 January 2014):
I know this was ages ago. However people might still see this post so this is to help them. I also like a science teacher. It is mad to think that something would happen though and would cause lots of trouble but I think speaking and seeing someone is just as good- its the excitement of it all! I've had a few crushes on teachers of both genders and understand how people might be feeling and that someone to talk to is much better than lots of judgemental idiots just telling us it will cause trouble. Love is weird and feelings can last for a long time and make us do the strangest things but we just need to think the best and not cause trouble. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2012): I am 14 and i still think about my female teacherModnote: your "answer" was about your own situation - could you post it as a QUESTION please, with more detail, about your own situation? Rather than post it as an "answer"
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reader, chach09 +, writes (10 December 2011):
im in exactly the same position..im 15..Female..
im so in love with my welsh teacher! shes so beautiful its unreal! words cant describe how much she means to me. i told her that i like her..so she knows pretty much everything..i know nothing can happen between us cause 1.shes not gay. and 2.its illegal and also she is 27.
To your answer 'ginge999' it is impossible for you and your teacher to be together unless you want her to go to prison..:/ i know its hard to hear but its true..and you wouldnt want that would you..Sorry this was more to ginge999 as i see that the Questioner wrote hers in 2005. hope everything goes ok for you! :)
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reader, ginge999 +, writes (30 November 2011):
 omg! this is exactly how i feel , i think i have felings for my female p.e teacher.
all i ever do is think about her , i really like her but im too scared to tell anyone.i dont like her as much when shes there either , and i dream about her all the time , and i make up silly excuses to talk to her too. sometimes i think i have a chance because i know she is either a lesbian or bi im 14 by the way ,, x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): Honestly, i thought it was just me! It started out as a crush, but now i've loved my female geography teacher for nearly a year :/ I spend every lunch time with her, try my best in her lesson, as though i have a chance! I try to convince myself there is a chance, but she's straight and i know it, i've met her husband :/
But still, i don't even know why her, shes not 'hot' but she gorgeous to me :/ Maybe i'll get over her, i hope so, its making my life hell :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): Hey, I know this was ages ago now but i need to get this off my chest too. I'm 15 and I have a MAJOR crush on my geography teacher from two years ago. I used to just look up to her because she was just so, well amazing, and i was a little intimidated by her to be honest. That was bad enough. But over the summer holidays, after a residential trip with her i developed some small crushes on a few female actresses, and eventually realised that i was basically falling in love with her. Even though she's not my teacher i go to a small girl's convent school so i see her nearly every day, and every time i have to suck in a breath to stop myself from actually swooning.
After seeing her in her natural state on the trips ive taken with her im pretty much obsessed, and its just been building up because i hardly ever talk to her.
Anyway, on friday i found out from another teacher that she's leaving next term, TO MOVE TO AUSTRALIA!!! First of all, that means i have to have a shitty teacher at a level, who incidentaly also has a crush on her (i mean seriously, she's properly beautiful, so its fair enough). Secondly, there's nothing i can do to tell her because she's only like 25? and she would just be embarrased, so i just have to carry on afterwards with the image of her fucking stupidly amazing blonde hair and perfect smile and green flecked eyes imprinted on my brain!
What do i do??? I'm losing it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): i know how it feels to like a teacher way to much . when i was in 7th grade i liked my language arts teacher she was awesome at first it wasnt a whole lot but after awhile the way i felt bout her was extremely crazy . but i never told her the problem was that at the end of the year eveyone found out she was moving and i was sad but i found out that she has a job now . i still like her too.;D
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reader, fantamaniac +, writes (25 November 2010):
i told my teacher she dont speak to me now i feel like i hate her but i cant get over her atm its anoying
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): I have exactly the same problem! I am 13 and female and I think I fancy my female PE teacher! I'm slightly confused though because I fancy guys as well... I am beginning to wonder if I am bisexual. I think she notices me looking at her. I'm too scared and embarrassd to tell anyone although I would love to get it off my shoulders...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): I am 17 and really like my female english teacher, i dont want to say fancy even though i find her attractive. But i am straight, that i am sure of, which is why i dont understand my feelings. I get all flustered when i speak with her and i spend all day thinking up ways i can go and speak to her, geeky i know. But she just makes me laugh so much xD her lessons are great! I always seem to talk about her to, everything she does i find it fascinating and she is just so funny! We share the same sense of humour most of the time she looks at me when telling jokes as she knows she is going to get a reaction! Its funny!
She is really young to, so she is near my age and we have quite a lot in common. I know this from conversations we have had at the back of the class when i help her out teaching year 8's. Sometimes i think she can tell how i feel, but then i have given nothing away so there is no reason for her to suspect anything.
The thing is i dont want her to know that i like her a bit too much. I'm embarassed. All i want from her is friendship, but i do find her extremely attractive in fact every boy in the school does!
I really dont know what to do about these feelings i have for her, i am even dreaming about her at night :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): that's exactly how i feel.i've had two teachers whom i had and have major crushes on. the first one was on the sixth grade. she was also my teacher during my fifth grade by i didn't notice her that much. i don't really remember when exactly did i start having feelings for her. i think she's just really attractive that time(she's part norwedian). i pretended that i didn't like her so that nobody would know. anyway... i was crushing on her for 2 and a half years, and i still continued even after she got married! then i got over her because i had a new crush on ANOTHER female. but this time,we got really close. we're friends now and i call her on the phone from time to time because i've already graduated from that school. i'm really happy to have her. i guess it's all that i've been wanting from these two teachers after all this time--their friendship. but still i'm obsessed with my teacher-friend. i sometimes even "research" her on the net. i'm really confused but i don't want to go beyond friendship. i want us to remain friends but i feel really happy when i'm with her, i think about her 5 times a minute. i really thought i was lesbian just before i read this. thank you so much for posting your question! i wouldn't have solved my problem if you didn't. :) ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): heyyy ilove the english tecaher more than any 1 in the world. shedoesn't hav me in her lessons. she doesn't even no my name. lol! but i always think bout if i was related 2 her. it would b amazin! lol. gd luc x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): Heya. :)Don't worry, i am the same.My teacher is also the same sex as me, but she is the most wonderful person. I am in her lessons and she's always nice to me. Whenever i see her around school she always says Hi to me and how're you doing.I tell her about loads of personal things about me, and she just listens and understands. She's helped me get through a lot of shit times, and we're very close. She's made my confidence rise SO much, and she always makes sure i am okay.She tells me i am a very talented person at her subject, and she really wants me to be succesful.She told me i should be proud of myself, because i am talented, and i need to show everyone what i'm 'made of'. :D I do love her, but i think it's because of the trust that we share. I know she doesn't tell anyone, and i love that. She's better than my mum for trust tbh, and i love talking to her about everything.Don't worry, you'll get used to these feelings. I'm leaving my school soon, and i know i'll miss her more than anything. But i know we'll keep in touch, because we're very close, and i know she likes me a lot. :DSo yeah, just don't worry, enjoy your relationship.Don't tell her though, it'll wreck everything. Just ENJOY. :)xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): i have exactly the same problem as u but she's my best mates teacher.
when i'm with her i feel sooo lucky n when i'm not i feel really sad cuz i DO loveeee her. gd luck bbe x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): omg! I have exactly the same problem, I feel just the same!we'll get through it together, it's just a phase! To us!A
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): omg! I have exactly the same problem, I feel just the same!we'll get through it together, it's just a phase! To us!A
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reader, clara123 +, writes (16 June 2009):
Hi
I am in my thirties and fancy my daughters teacher so much its hurting me. Shes leaving in a few weeks, and it's destroying me, I need to know if she has feelings for me, but I know so many people at the school I couldn't approach her and ask her for a drink, I DONT WANT TO let her just go. I am a women shes a women so that makes me BI. Help
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): Hey . yeah i think im in love with my english teacher . i just cant stop thinking about her and we are really close now , i talk to her alot about stuff and she really understands me and i told her that the only reason i tell you these stuff is because i feel i can trust you .. and she said yeah me to :) . she said she doesnt really tlk to eny1 but me about life stuff .. she is just great i adore her ? x
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reader, Scullyfan +, writes (6 March 2009):
I am in EXCTLY the same situation. I was just reading some of the replies and the ones that explain that their teachers hugged them and stuff, is that allowed?
I feel so jealous coz i fancy my english teacher snd never know what to do around her!
She's so sweet... I smile just thinking about her :)
What did you end up doing in your situation?
From Soph xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008): Yehh it was exactly the same with me. Im 16 and ive left school now but I am also female and fancied my female p.e teacher lol even though I think im straight:S lol.It was really confusing though because when she was taking the register she came and sat next to me and hugged me once lesson started. She also used to tease me but it was more like playfull banter (Although i dont know if she was flirting) she used to do lots of this and laugh, then say at the end that she loved me really. Also before we broke up we had to go into a lesson for 3 weeks without doing anything else and i got put in p.e and this is when what i believed to be flirting was at its worst. We was doing boxing and she wanted to be a partner with me but we didnt end up. So when i had my back turned she would mess about and hit me in the head ect lol. Also the day we left she was crying and hugging me saying she was going to miss me. She never said that she had a boyfriend or a girlfriend so i dont know if she was straight or lesbian ect. Soo confusing lol
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reader, JustPlainAmanda +, writes (2 August 2008):
 okaii so here is your typical problem! i think your embarrased to be yourself! dont be! dont make the smae mistake i did though n tell your friends! maybe you should spend time with her and see if you can get to know each other better, you might be suprised at how much you have in common. be cautious though and dont let her catch on just yet until you know for certain
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): i don't think i fancy my teacher, but i'm like really obsessed with her and i have to see what she is wearing every day... but i think that it goes back to when my friend said to me that she wore the same thing every day, so i always looked out for her to see if she was wearing the same thing as the day before!! how weird...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGosh... there are so many people in the same situation as me... you know what? I haven't seen her for nearly a year now, but I still feel the same. I drew a picture for her, and gave it to her on the last day, anonymously of course~ (I put it on her desk). It was a picture of a rose, because I remember her telling me that she liked roses while she was looking at my artwork ( I drew lots of roses), so I thought it would be kinda nice. lol, I'm strange huh? I just wrote 'best wishes for the future' at the bottom- as she was leaving..... I wonder if she liked it?
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reader, can pigs fly? +, writes (7 March 2008):
 hey left a comment a few months ago......i nearly 15 and i still fancy my female pe teacher too! its been 3 and a half years since i first realised i had these feelings. I thought they would go away but know i know they probably won't. Sometimes i hate the way i feel about her because i know my dreams and fantices can never come true but then on the other hand, i love the way i feel about her because it makes me really happy when i see her, think about her and speak to her! have you got msn cause i would love to talk to you properly?[Moderator's note: We cannot allow exchange of mail addresses on the main channels.]
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): I also fancied my teacher, im a male of course, but I coudlnt resist looking at her, I ended up getting an A* in her lesson, i dont know what it was though that led me to fancy her, i never liked her at the start of the year but gradually i became fond of her, now its like shes the only women i want, i dont want anyone else apart from her, i think about her everyday now that I have left school, i have her email address and I dont think im ever going to see her again, i havent told her about my feelings, its best to keep them to yourself, it could break her own relationship, but then again, I would confront her and tell her, id do it through email or some other form such as a letter, try sending a letter to her and signing it "YOUR SECRET ADMIRER", this way she wont find out, gradually give her hints of who you are until she finds out, it may come as a shock to her, but just give it a try
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2008): It is very strange that we dream of our teachers when they are not there but when we are with them the feeling sort of evaporates. I think the reason for this is that in the past thiese teachers have given us reason to believe that they like us a lot and subconsciously we will always remember this even if it never happens again. Our minds then create a person who is not always the same as the real person. I just try and tell myself that although I love her it cannot be and to think of her as a true and loving friend who I will always stay in touch with. I hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): i'm in the 8th grade and i got this teacher last year who i HATED. But then she started to like me and i started to like her. I thought about half way through the year that i had a crush on her, but i now realize that i was getting confused with my feelings. I've realized that i actually fantasize sometimes about her being my mother or my older sister or some member of my family. I really look up to her and try to copy her and she is really interesting to talk to.
hope this has helped!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): im a female and the teacher i like is a male i have the same feelings when hes teaching me it feels like i dont like him but then when im in a different lesson i carnt stop thinking about him i told one of my friends and it went around my school and the teacher found out so i feel really bad =[
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): yeah you're not alone. I had a huge crush on my geography teacher but he left and its gone thank god, but he came back to visit the other week and the feelings flooded back- still, I could handle them and im over him and I think more about boys my own age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat sounds great :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): Yeah, I guess you're right, but what I really meant was that I want her 2 remember my name lol.
I always put my hand up but usually don't get chosen, in fact one time she said to me and this other girl: 'I want someone else to answer other than you two', and she laughed :D
When my friends asked who I had for Maths I said her name (I wont mention it on here) and all of them either said 'LUCKY' or 'She's reeeeaally nice'.
And one time a girl said: 'Miss, I've only answered one question on the sheet' and everyone else had done like 20 and she goes: 'Awwww, that's ok! Take your time!'
lol
My teacher last year was absolutely horrible so I guess it's a nice change :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI suppose there isn't anything you can do if you already get top marks and are nice to her. You probably shouldn't go out of your way to get yourself noticed though... Because that can be bad from what I've read.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): My teacher left and I really don't miss her at all, I only miss her now because she was a good teacher. All my friends miss her loads and my teacher now is a bit weird and always says 'then' lol.
She said it FIFTY ONE TIMES in half an hour!!!!
:S
Anyways this year there are 2 hot male teachers, I don't have either of them but I will have one soon :)
Sadly,
I now like my female maths teacher :S
She is sooo sweet and I prefer her to the other teacher, and she has dark brown hair, green eyes and always smiles at me when she sees me and when I am confused in the lesson she always laughs with me when I say something silly :D
Actually the problem is that usually she can't remember my name :S
I work really hard in class and got top marks on a test.
How do I get her to notice me more?
Thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): I am bisexual, I REALLY fancy a female teacher at my school. She taught me a bit last year but not at all this year. Im quite supprised that she remembers me actually, but everytime i see her, being the genuinley nice person that she is, she smiles and says hello. I cant help thinking about her all the time. My school seems to have quite a lot of good-looking teachers, espacially female ones, they're all good dressers etc but she just stands out compared to all of the others. My advice to anyone in a similar situation is that I wouldnt worry about fancying any teacher, male or female becuase if you are friendly and nice every lesson, they will think nothing of it except that you are a good student, which in their eyes is a cool thing! lol xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2007): Hi, I'm in the same position as you, except for I'm 17 years old. I adore one of my teachers and it's in my best subject. I'm not worried about it though, I take it in my stride. It's fun to look forward to a class just to see her or to feel happier when she says hi to you. It's absolutely nothing to worry about. I would say I'm bisexual because I've fancied other girls too, aswell as guys.
This teacher is more like a friend becasue she treats me a little better than the others in the class and she gives me hugs and stuff but it's no big deal. I used to try to annoy her to get her to pay attention to me, but now I don't need to, because she does that anyway, for being one of the best students. So my advice to you would be: Stop pretending to know the answers and start showing your true ability. She'll pay loads of attention to you and don't worry, none of your class will ever guess you like her, believe me! Good Luck!
From Kia xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, it makes me feel a bit better when I know its not only me! :) Oh and I'm 16 now, not 13 anymore. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): Cool! I've got a mini crush on a female teacher at my school too, although I'm 17. I think it's safe to say I'm at least a little bit bisexual. But that's fine with me. I have the same thing as you where I think about her more intensely when I don't see her. She taught me all last year but it's only now when she's not teaching me that I'm thinking about her. Weird. When I was 13 like you I had a crush on a male teacher...ah how times have changed ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): i am the same.i really fancy one of my female teachers, and i know its not just a phase. i have liked her now for 2 years.i have even told her that. and she was fine about it. and tbh it has got us talking more and it is great.lol.i know i shouldnt fancy her but i just cant help it. i am 16 and thinkin ok maybe i am bi. but hey i dnt care i love her
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2007): I Fancied 3 of my female teachers 2 of them have left now but 1 is still there
wen i walk past her she smailes and ses ma name
but wen i hear other people talkin horribly about her i join in and go yh she did this and that but in my head i no that i actually like her and i dont dare tell any1 every1 will laugh and ill have no friends left
From Anomiouse
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): I guess I feel alright about it now.I still miss her though, obviously. My friend said to me and my other mates,'do you think she's pretty'? I do.And they all said yes and I was really surprised!By the way I think what you said about the picture was really sweet :D Thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUm, I was, Immediately after I was REALLY upset, but then it fades away, because you still have to get on with life :) But it will be fine after a while. I still think about her a lot though. I drew a picture for her, although, she doesn't know it was me who drew it, I put it on her desk when she wasn't there, but she always said I was amazing at art (I'm not really *sighs*) and she also liked how I put roses in my artwork, so I drew a picture of a rose for her :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): Actually she is leaving tomorrow. The most I have really said to her was about our charity event while she was in her office, lol, and when she asked the class if they were going anywhere on holiday I told her I was going on a cruise and she looked really surprised :D Yesterday was my last lesson with her and me and my friends made her a card and everything lol. She really liked it. Still, before she goes, I just want to know. Will I be really upset when she's gone? I don't think I can bear that :( Anyway I wished her good luck in her new job (at another school) so I guess that's enough, but I'm still thinking about her. Any more advice, guys?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTelling this from the point of view who also had her teacher leave: make the most out of the time you have left. Talk to her, anything! lol, seriously, because once shes gone, shes gone and you'll probably never see her again in your life. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): I told my friend and she was totally understanding, maybe because she likes a teacher too (but he's male). But we (my friend and I) kept seeing her today and she was pointing it out and I just put on an embarrassed face. And my other friend shouted out 'hi miss!' and she turned around and smiled and waved at us!! I'm not sure how I feel now.. I think it's a bit more than an attraction... but she's leaving soon!! It's making me really sad, the thought that I will never see her again :( I thought the 'attraction' was gone but I really don't know now. What should I do? I understand that it's kind of GOOD that she's leaving, because then I wont see her and the attraction will go, but I still feel sad!! Please, someone help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): Aww thanks a lot :D I actually don't really feel much for her now. I mean I still do kinda but... I think it is just a phase and I'm starting to get over it. Thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjudging from what I've read here and what people have been telling me- your probably not bisexual and its just a phase which will pass soon ^^
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2007): I have the EXACT same problem as you. I don't know if it's a proper crush, it's only been like 2 months. But my teacher is leaving and I'm so sad! But I do actually LOVE guys too! Does this mean I am officially bisexual? I don't know. I haven't told anyone so I just came on here to ask :D My friends kinda say she is buff but I know they're joking so I join in but.. I actually mean it!! PLEASE HELP ME!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didn't actually dream about her that much. Once I had a dream though I saw her and I was going over to talk to her but when I turned around I saw a load of people from my school watching me so I couldn't because I was scared they would find out that I liked her. What about you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionerm, well I was generally quiet because I am a quiet person, but sometimes I kinda went a bit weird and would unintentionally make a lot of noise to get her attention, but really I didn't mean to do it, seriously, lol. what about you?
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reader, cool +, writes (1 July 2007):
what did you used to dream about her?
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reader, cool +, writes (24 June 2007):
No, i dont have the guts to lol! i wish i could though. Do you know when you were in her class, were you quiet when she was around?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi
Well, not from her like that, but I've gotten that from other people in my school (which freaks me out) , its just that I tend to make a complete idiot of myself every time I see her, which probably why she looks at me, lol
But she probably guessed I liked her anyway.
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reader, cool +, writes (22 June 2007):
hi, im that one that always talks to you lol. ive got an accout so you can always talk.
Guess what's happening, when i work i always sense that shes looking at me. its like whenever she see's me, she looks at me! There was this time when she made it very obvious that she was looking at me. i was sitting and talking to my m8ts when she was constanty looking at me, i could see from the corner of my eye. when i looked to see, she quickly turned away. And now i have the feeling that she's spying at me. This is really weird, whenever i walk to school, i see her drive in her car past me, wearing sunglasses eventhough its not sunny, its quite obvious that shes spying on me. Did something like that ever happen to you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI pretended I hated her, so no one would guess that I liked her. But she teaches the subject I am best at, she asked me a really and I mean easy question and I couldn't answer, because another thing I did was talk all the time and act as if I didn't really care for the lesson ( when really I loved it) taking the I-hate-you thing to far, so she began picking people to answer questions, so when I was picked I would have no idea because 1. OMG shes talking to me 2. The whole class is watching 3. Musn't show any sign of liking her 4. Go completely thick because I'm thinking of so many things at once. Although the one advantage was that for all the tests we had I got always full marks or extremely close because I felt I needed to try my best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): Do you know when you said that you went all weird around her, what did you do?
when shes teaching me, i go really shy and i mean REALLY shy and i dont know what to do about it. There was this really embarrasing moment when i went so shy i started kicking under the table to get rid of the shyness, i dident notice that she was LOOKING UNDER THE TABLE!!!! when i saw her looking, i went so red. The thing is im never shy, but when it comes to that teacher its a nightmare!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think that it wouldn't be professional for the teacher to act wierd or anything, and it would be unfair on the student if the teacher deliberately avoided them just because they know that their student has a crush on them, I suppose. Any teachers on this website by any chance? *worries*
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2007): I also have the question of why teachers dont seem to find if you fancy them. I'm a 17 year old girl and I have a crush on my teacher too who is also a female. I would never tell her or anyone else in real life, but I think she sort of knows anyway cuz its obvious. But she's never said anything or acted weird around me. I think she really likes me (as a student). She hugs me and calls me sweetie and stuff, but again, in a student way. But if she guesses I like her, i would think she'd be more weird around me or not want to be friends with me because she'd think I was weird for liking her or not want to lead me on. What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlol, I doubt its the same teacher, It would also freak me out if it was lol, I don't think were allowed to say names on this website I'm afraid although its cool talking to you, what colour hair does your teacher have? ( lol, avoiding the no name rule).
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2007): what's your teacher's name? cause im guessing that i might have the same teacher as you!!!!! it would be a miracle if that happen lol!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionactually, I can't remember looking at her that much because I was trying to act as if I didn't like her too much to look. But I always found myself looking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2007): i keep thinking about her kissing me, what do you think about her?did you used to look at her when she was teaching?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did exactly the same. I go unbelievably shy and probably what made it more obvious is that I always acted as if I didn't like her, to try and give other people the image that I didn't like her, which was my automatic reaction to try and deter people. I think she realised that I did like her though. Once I was crying because something bad just happened to me. I didn't realised that she was there because I was busying crying pretty loudly. Then I heard someone say 'Are you alright?' and I nearly died when I realised who the voice belonged to. I didn't answer for at least 15 seconds, I think. So I think she pretty much realised. As someone mentioned in a comment below just 'go with the flow' because if your like me and she goes to teach at another school while you still like her, you'll be upset like me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007): what can i do!!! everytime my teacher is their i go extremly shy and weird, i think shes noticed.
when shes not their i keep thinking of her kissing me!!!
when u had her, how did you react to her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't really want to put my email up incase anyone I know may guess.. But I will continue talking about it here though. I'm actually not 13 anymore, I'm 15, but I still like her nonetheless. I'm so glad there are other people out there too who feel the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2007): hey a know how u feel, i am a 13 year old girl aswell and i also think i fancy my PE teacher(shes female aswell). i wont dare tell my friends coz i no they would completely take the mick. aswell as that when we r at school everyone says how much they hate this teacher, i do aswell - but then wen i get home i cant stop thinking about her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2007): hi, im female too. I know what it feels like to fancy a female teacher. Im bisexual. I think you should try to identify your sexuality. Think to yourself do you like boys? or girls? or both? Its up to you I chose both. From a bisexual girl
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): hi, im 13 too, and ive got EXACTLY the same problem as you!!!
i seem to fancy my english teacher and shes a woman (25)
when i see her i dont like her that much too. but wen shes not their i keep thinking about her.
This is how she looks like; she is very slim, blue eyes, blonde kinda hair.
she opens her hair most of the days and ties them up most of the days. but the thing is i dont like her but i like her!!!
could i have ur email so we can talk about this problem?
gud luck!!
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reader, CARAwwr. +, writes (28 March 2007):
 It's probably just a teenage phase, I went through one like that.
To be honest it's probably best you keep this your own business, things can get out of hand.
For now it's best not to worry about your sexuality, take life as it comes and enjoy yourself! I never worried about it. I have only ever fancied one girl, and tons and tons of boys! Just think of it that way. Anyway, the phase passed quickly for me. She's still my teacher and I have no feelings whatsoever for her.
I think it was mearly admiration, but love live's are never ever simple as I've learnt from my little experience, sometimes I wonder if anything is ever planned to work out.
Anyway, I'll stop drowning in my sorrows lol.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks, shes leaving though,I'm really upset about it. But some people where holding this sort of party for her, so I've decided to help out with that. I really really don't want her to go though... know that I look back on it, its been a year and a half...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): I know how you feel. Im 16 and I really fancy a female teacher at my school. Nobody knows about it though. Like me, I am sure that you will get over her and the feelings you have will soon pass, however dont get too impatient as this may take a long time. Whatever you do at the moment, DO NOT TELL HER. I guess there is a positive side to it though because you will be eager to please her and your grades will get better! Just hang in there for the time being and dont do anything you will regret.xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, I'll try, its hard though. I hate the way my mind works.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2007): hi there! welll ive read ur concern and i understand totally what u mean. I have/still am in this same situation. However she is alot older than me!!!!, and i know tht she is out of my league, so i have to push my thoughts to the back of my head, and carry on as normal,, this is wht u have to try and do!! good luck!xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2007): hi, i have read your message. Maybe it is just because your sorta friends with her. If you dont like the idea think up an imaginary boy and pretend to fancy him or a famous person. When i started seondary i always went for boys a year older then me. My freinds got me about dat! Anyway, in yr6 i spent a week with my best friend and assistant teacher, she was more like a mate. Is that how you feel?
your faithfully
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2006): was in the same boat as you, i was probably a bit worse. i use to get myslf in detention with my teaher on purpose, i also used to be really naughty for her just so she would shout at me. But it turned me on in a weird way lol .And even got my self exspelled 4 or 5 times because of her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2006): I was only 14 when I told a Female teacher I liked them,
But we got on really good.I could tell her everything apart from dis. I confronted me best mate.
and this teachers best mate also a teacher there.You must not take this any further, she is not allowed to have a relationship with you and will loose her job, if she is flirting with you I'll talk to her,
or is it that you just miss-read the signals and she is paying the same amount of attention to you as he does others.But i know she does like you but a student.I know this is not what you want to hear but what you are feeling is a crush and it will go away.Mine didnt till 4and a half years later.She has helped me through some really tough times in my life.I told her everything.
Fancying your teacher can be hard but you have to make sure you really are in love before telling how you feel otherwise things might turn out wrong. if it is true love then ask to see him at the end of your lesson and tell him. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for the responses, especially those who know exactly what I mean! :) But I was just wondering, why do they not mind (I have no intention to say anything by the way) :) It would be great If someone answered! Thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2006): i was in the same boat as you, i was probably a bit worse. i use to get myslf in detention with my teaher on purpose, i also used to be really naughty for her just so she would shout at me. but really it was just a crush. maybe because at one time i was having a bit of trouble and i turned to her and told her everything, so i was probably just so glad she was ther for me that i developed strong feelings for her.... but listen you may not be gay i am in a serious relationship now, (i am 19 now) and i look back and cant believe i labelled myself as lesbion due to that... dont make the same mistake.. and dont tell you teacher, i made it obvious and she didnt seem to mind but i was uncomfortable around her... GOOD LUCK
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reader, willywombat +, writes (15 July 2006):
 sweatheart, this is normal. Please stop worrying.....I don't want to sound patronising, but this is just a crush. When I say JUST, I dont mean that to sound like I am belittling you. Crushes are a normal part of growing up and becoming sexually mature. They are a way for your mind and body to develop feelings for people outside of your family....a practice if you like for your *grown-up* relationships later on.
Look, some of the advice on here is jsut a little silly.....DO NOT confront her, she is a teacher who will not be embarrassed by what you say, but you will be MORTIFIED by embarrassment having to face her each day in class....so just dont do it.
Crushes on somebody of the same sex is absolutely no indication of your final *sexuality*. Crushes on women are normal so please do not fret about that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2006): ive got that too, although i think its a bit more admiring her, and wanting to be like her that it feels like im attracted to her.
this might be wot your feeling, that you want to be like her so much that you cant stop looking at her and thinking of how you can be more like her. im 13 too so im in exactly the same situation as you!!! dw lots of peeps probably feel this way, but like you they dont show it or tell anyone (by the way i dont go to a girls skl) gd luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe situation hasn't really changed for me, In fact I think about her everyday and I go all funny around her, but I understand. Thank you for all the help. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2005): confront her and tell her
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2005): It is totally normal for teenage girls to get crushes on female teachers... however this does not necessarily mean you're gay. Crushes are fun - just go witht he flow, you're allowed to admire her just as long as you don't act upon your feelings. Don't be in a hurry to label yourself as gay/straight/bisexual... whatever... this crush does not dictate your sexual orientation and it is perfectly ok! don't worry xxx
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reader, centaur_girl +, writes (21 October 2005):
You might not actually feel attracted to her in that way! You might just admire her or feel close to her in someway. I'm not saying it's bad if you DO like her in that way, just don't put yourself down about it. Like I said, it might just be admiration.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2005): Your 13 therefore your feelings are strange and changing all the time and you are at a girls school therefore the only way your attractions can be aimed is at females, dont panic about this it is probably a passing thing just enjoy school and your friends.
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (15 October 2005):
Don't worry, it's probably just one of those things. I felt like that too with most of my female teachers. You don't have to tell any one that you feel like that, it's your feelings, you don't have to tell anyone.
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reader, not again +, writes (15 October 2005):
Hi There, I went to a girls school too (although I don't know whether it makes a difference or not!) and I also had crushes on my teacher. Don't worry about! It's so easy to fall in love with some of your teachers. They are so charasmatic and outgoing sometimes, and I know that those were qualities that I really admired and were attracted to. Don't worry about it. Kepp your thoughts to yourself or write a diary, but rest assured that if you talk about it to your friends in ten years time they will probably say they felt the same way!!
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reader, lillaum +, writes (15 October 2005):
 Hi there! it's not uncommon to get confused about sexuality at your age. I'm not saying that you are or not homosexual. Sometimes when we very much admire their looks or attitude we can get our feelings confused. admiration is after all a part of love! dealing with our feelings is where it counts. If your teacher was male you know nothing would happen and you would just get on with it, why not try that here. Don't get ahead of yourself, if you are worried about being gay don't be. There is nothing wrong with that. Not every one has that same view though. If you find that you are having more and more crushes on women then think before saying any thing, not because it is wrong but because you may need advice and support on how to deal with people's reactions. Chances are though you are just a bit confused. Our feelings are every where at 13 and it's when our feelings get stronger!Good luckLillaum
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