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writes:my friends always told i was pretty and i believed them. A few other people also told me i was pretty, most people say i'm okay.On the pretty scale i was rated a 3 but i didn't care. But then people were laughing at my face and my friends have admitted i'm quite ugly. i mean guys like me but thats cause i have huge boobs. i feel really bad.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Looks mean nothing in the big scheme of things. My favourite boyfriend was a redhead with a face like a smacked arse, but he had the best personality, and if he hadn't suddenly gone mad and become a Jehovas Witness I would have married him. On the other hand, some of the most uninteresting men I've been out with have been drop-dead gorgeous but so busy obsessing over their looks that they bored me half to death. A strange phenomena is that when someone is beautiful on the inside, it somehow shows through in their face when you get to know them. Aside from all that, as you get older you will probably find that your looks will change a little and you will learn how to make the best of yourself, so don't worry about what your 'friends' have to say. I bet none of them are super-model material either. :)
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reader, Jason32477  +, writes (16 July 2009):
 Honey its not who you are on the outside that matters.Its who you are inside that counts.A persons heart and soul mean a lot more in any kind of relationship than there appearance. Would you rather have a good looking friend or a caring friend?Be the person you want to be ,and don`t worry about what other people think of you.In life you will learn that the only opinion about you that matters is your own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): On the 'universal' handsome scale, I am a 1.5/10 according to one of my female friends. On that 'same' 'universal' scale, another of my female friends gave me an 8.5/10, but I believe she is biased. The bulk of my 'peers' during senior high school, felt I was quite disgusting looking, however, for some reason, my then-popular and beautiful girlfriends chose me as their boyfriend.
What I am trying to say is that as everyone else will tell you, beauty is in the eye of he beholder. If you expose yourself to the entire range of people on this planet, I can guarantee you that you will not get only one negative response, but a myriad of responses for positive, negative and indifference.
I am sure that there is a 50% chance you may find me quite displeasing to your senses, but at the same time, there is also a 50% chance that you may find that I am a perfect fit in terms of physical attraction. Our sensations are based on the flip of a coin.
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Ultimately, if you continue to feel ugly, you can try to change/upgrade the features you want to change/upgrade. I believe that people are capable of broader opportunities if they have more attached to their resume. This goes for physique, mental process, perception, knowledge, wisdom, wit, etc. The more refined features you have, the better defined your needs and wants become. The less refined features you have, the least defined your needs and wants are. In other words, to expand your opportunities, you need to refine yourself, upgrade and even change yourself.
However, do so with a healthy agenda and not one polluted with superficial goals. Working on your looks is never shallow or superficial. It's about building confidence and general social acceptance. However, I am not saying working on your personality traits is not important. Everything in moderation. Everything in balance.
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reader, ellie123 +, writes (16 July 2009):
Please don't let it get you down. Ive gone through pretty much the same thing, insecure and all that. Youre freinds are probabaly just jealous, they don't sound like very good friends to me if they are saying these things to you, they probabaly just want to feel about themselves.
Guys like confident girls so don't let it get to you. Your probabaly far prettier than all your friends :)
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