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writes:I have been with my gf for 3 years. We have a good healthy relationship, we have a house together and are planning a family. I find myself physically attracted to her sister (they're sisters) and I do believe I have received vibes from her and I frequently find myself thinking about her when I masturbate. I/we would never take this further or act upon it because I am well adjusted and happy where I am and she is engaged, but is it a normal/common scenario to find your 'sister-in-law' highly attractive ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): Just be careful,what You are feeling right now it is probably normal but unacceptable. Try not to masturbate and think about your gf's sister... I strongly believe that that is not a " fantasy" it is a desire of having your gf's sister in bed with you. I will suggest to control your mind and if you find yourself thinking about the sister... STOP... cuz next thing you know everytime you will be around her is a temptation...who know's you might not gonna be able to control yourself and that will ruin your relationship with your gf and your gf and her sister's relationship. If you love your gf... better stop now before it gets ugly... we all have fantasy... but having a fantasy that is within your reach is not good specially if you will cuz negative outcome. You can masturbate and pleasure yourself thinking about somebody else that you know it's not possible to come to reality... like a hot pornstar or a hotstar or supermodel but not your sister's gf. Your desire might end up in a situation that you will be cheating with your gf with her sister!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): Just keep it to yerself
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): Hi
I wouldn't feel too guilty. All of us fantasise about others. It's only bad if you start thinking about that other person ALL THE TIME (when not masturbating)
Bet your girlfriend has men that she finds very manly and attractive whom she'd fantasise about sleeping with and being held in their arms, so try not to feel too bad about it.
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reader, Viv Acious  +, writes (13 November 2010):
It is not unusual to find other people attractive and it would make sense that as sisters they are probably similar looking. They may even have similar tastes in men and that is why you sensed a vibe from her sister.
Also, maybe your g/f fancies her sister's fiance and wanks a lot over thoughts of him. Maybe she also gets a vibe from her future brother-in-law too - and maybe he wanks over thoughts of her......Y'see...I really don't think you are alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): It's a forbidden fruit. That's, partly , why she is so attractive. Leave her alone. Sexual attraction is a natural impulse, such as hunger. Choose, who you have sex with and what you eat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): Yeah bud just dont act on it...its normal and as long as you have self control, which isnt easy, youre good. Try not to put yourself in situations alone with her so that you eliminate any risk. Sounds like you two have a respectful relationship anyhow.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (13 November 2010):
 I suppose if she does looks quite a bit like your girlfriend..makes some sense. Do keep your thoughts to yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): good god, can no guy ever be happy with just one woman? Seriously. Watch porn. Much less hurtful watching randoms have sex then finding out you'd rather the sister then the girl you're with. Better idea, leave her. She deserves a guy more interested in her then her sister.. No wonder so many women have hangups over their partners masturbating, its never over them and these 'fantasies' are hurtful. Would you guys like it if you found out your other half masturbated while thinking about your brother/friend instead of you or someone she'd never meet? Stuff thats in your head is just as bad as acting on it, its still hurtful and disrespectful. It makes us feel like we'll never ever be enough and that we cant trust you, esp around your fantasy girl. Whats gonna stop you acting out your fantasy huh? Some kind of messed up idea of morals? Or the fear of rejection? Its not as if you love who you're with enough to stop imagining yourself with someone else. Yup, porn (much as that can be an issue too) is just watching ppl who'll never meet having sex instead of imagining havin sex with someone else. Geez
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): Yes its taboo. Just don't act on it.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (13 November 2010):
 As long as it stays in your head, no harm done.
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reader, KissPEPPER +, writes (13 November 2010):
 I don't see the harm in it, just keep it to your self and never act on it
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