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*ddy2012
writes:So I'm gona be 17 soon and have never had a boyfriend. I'm not beautiful but I'm not ugly eitherl. People tell me I'm pretty but I still can't seem to attract a guy. I used to just want to stay away from dating because I saw how bad it was for friends, but now I want to try it for myself. Any tips?
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reader, addy2012 +, writes (15 November 2010):
addy2012 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx for all the advice people :)
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reader, cheekyfriday  +, writes (13 November 2010):
I mean some men at your age, eg; other 17 year old men. Eventually they will grow up.
Oh and love is about hurt too. So just take it slow keep your life going until you are sure, this way you are protecting yourself.
And if it doesn't work out the first time, pick yourself up and try again, and again if you have to.
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reader, cheekyfriday +, writes (13 November 2010):
Tips: Stay away from people that smoke drugs, if you don't.
Stay away from abusive men.
Sex is ok, but do not move in with them for at least 3-5 years at your age. Do not take it too serious too quickly.
Take it very slowly to protect your heart! This is why we take it slowly.
Do not forget your friends always keep in contact and go out with them regularly.
Make sure they have nice friends, that is so important if you are going to get along.
See that they are not easierly influenced.
TAKE IT SLOW.... and be patient a really nice guy will come along soon enough.
Remember: Some men are too busy playing sports and hanging with other men to be serious in relationships thus breaking womens hearts, try to avoid that type!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 November 2010):
 -start off with giving them trust, only when they lie you should take it back. After that it's up to you whether you're going to let them regain that trust..if not I suggest you ditch him.
-Jmtmj pretty much summed it up with appearance.
- When flirting be yourself, smile, touch his arm, laugh.
-Avoid signals all together, guys you're age don't have the mental capacity to receive these messages often due to ADD..or they're all together confused asking if you're all right.
-Be straight forward, "I like you" says a lot.
-Don't engage in sex straightaway until you are officially in a relationship..If they pressure you get away fast. Can't really put a timeline on it, but I would say 3-6 months into the relationship.
-Don't linger in the "grey zone" of seeing/dating each other for too long. I like to find out ahead of time what the guy is after (fling or relationship). Usually ask about the third date, careful how you word it. Give it about 1-3 before you go asking him to define your status.
-Be observant..it takes quite a long time to truly get to know someone.
-Around your age range, I don't recommend LDRs they're not for everyone.
-In your purse, always keep a pack of gum (in case he asks, they often do), extra cash (it's nice to offer to pay for popcorn or ice cream at the movies, and you get those jerks who make you go "dutch" and it's polite for you to leave a tip at dinner too), a small brush, eye liner, concealer( to touch up the eyeliner that has migrated down your face), and your cell turned on silent or vibrate. Never answer it on a date unless it's an emergency.
-Have an overview of topics you want to talk about, don't bombard them with questions this isn't an interview. The easiest are music, concerts you've been to, your pet peeves, movies, school, work, your friends, a little about your family etc..DON'T ask him about his past relationships or how girls he has slept with. AVOID those topics by all means, one it's his past it doesn't concern you and two if he asks you politely tell him you will not tell him it's in the past.
-Don't be afraid to make the first move as in grabbing his hand while walking or linking your arm with his. Don't play footsies under the table that's tacky.
-He has a 3 day window to call you after a date..if he doesn't that means he just wasn't interested. You can send him a text/call, just a "hi" to throw the ball in his court.
-It is normal for guys to have girl friends..if you're wary of some make an effort to get to know them before you go making assumptions.
-Don't send anymore than 3 texts in a row, anymore then you look a bit clingy and we don't want that.
I think that's about it, covering the basis on Dating 101.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (13 November 2010):
 Try reinventing yourself, 17 & 18 years old is the perfect age to step outside your comfort zone and try new things. Get a new wardrobe, maybe buy clothes that you know you would never normally consider (no I'm not saying go skimpier), but try new styles or colours. Go to a good hair dresser, maybe ask for a cut that will suit your face or a new color. Try a new sport or hobby where you can meet new people. Don't try to turn into a barbie doll clone or anything, just try to have fun with the whole process, you may find it liberating :)
At the end of the day- confidence is still the most universally attractive quality, but its not so easy to just suddenly become confident... At least in trying new things you may naturally gain confidence as a side effect.
Just my 2 cents anyhoo, I've seen some very plain girls turn smoking hot over a few months- simply by reinventing themselves. Good luck :)
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reader, KissPEPPER +, writes (13 November 2010):
 Take it slow and don't do anything you will regret, it's all about taking chances
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