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writes:so i had my friend send my bf a message on myspace to see if he would cheat on me she sent him a message asking him if he had a girlfriend and he said no.I found a different reason to break up with him and after i broke up with him i asked him why he told her he didnt have a girlfriend. He told me that the other night when i was out with my friends i sounded to busy to talk to him so he felt alone and left out. So he thought she would like him and make him feel better cause the more he tried to make me happy it was useless and that all he wanted was for me to be with him and tell him i love him but i was to busy with my friends. And that made him feel really bad. He said everything has been hard since i first told him we should break up. Im guessing he distanced his self from me just incase i did break up with him it wouldn't hurt as bad. I do have to admit i treated him awfull! and i can tell i hurt him real bad. I kinda sent him a really harsh text the other night. Cause he started likeing my friend that was talking to him but she wasnt interested in dating him. So i thought he was blaming me cause she wouldnt date him and then he said that he didnt want to be stuck with the same problem all his life we are expecting so i thought he meant he didnt want to be stuck with the baby his whole life. So i sent him this text, " Ok well since you dnt wanna be stuck with it then we move on dont talk to each other period cause now your blaming me cause a girl wont date you. Your not into fixing us your ready to move on you never loved me to begin with and since you dont wanna be stuck with this your whole life then im just not going to talk to you anymore i have tried since we started texting today to try and fix everything and make it better but you just wanna move on. so im not going to talk to you anymore and we can just forget we met eachother and dated each other! Bye" He never texted back and i havent heard from non.. how can i fix everything and get him back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): I agree with everyone else. Be nicer. Apologize. Stop the test bullpoop. Be less self - centered, and disrespectful. Then maybe you will find a new boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): Why do you want him back? You obviously don't trust him and when you were with him you treated him like crap, you said it yourself.
You sound very immature and a little mean if i'm honest. You broke up with him, so he can ask whoever he likes out on a date.
I suggest waiting a few years before you start dating again. I feel sorry for the poor guy, he explained his reasons why but you didn't seem to take in what he was telling you.
He doesn't want you back and frankly, i don't blame him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 January 2011):
 You can't fix it. Let him go. He deserves better then what you dished out. You already messed it up so badly. Stop playing "games" with people. You don't "test" your partner.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (11 January 2011):
 Every single thing you said to him, everything you texted to him, every single action you took with regard to him shows him that you do not trust him, you do not want him, you are doing EVERY SINGLE THING you can to push him away. Why on earth would anyone want to come back to someone who plays games, says mean things and behaves like a small child having a tantrum?
You have hurt his feelings, you have even gone so far as to put words in his mouth, telling him what he thinks and feels, for heaven's sake, in that last text you sent him. You didn't even have the honesty to tell him why you were breaking up with him.
How old are you, really? Are you really 16-17? Because this sounds like behavior from someone who is about 12-13.
I think this relationship is one of those life lessons we all get to learn. In this case, I hope you take some time to think and learn something about how to treat a boyfriend, how to break up with someone, and how to let go when you have gone too far. Which you have, you have gone too far.
There's nothing you can do now but let him make contact with you, IF he chooses to, you make sure you are honest and speak only of your feelings, do not tell him what he is thinking and feeling. I wouldn't give much hope though. Sorry.
Take care.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (11 January 2011):
 Stop dating, your too immature, too self-centred to think about being kind to other people.
You hurt this guy, you made him feel alone and rejected, and then your rude and insulting.
Leave him alone for a little while. Think about how you would feel if someone treated you this way. Think about if you could actually stand a friend who acted like you.
Call him in a couple of weeks and just say hello. But your not a nice person to date, you hurt people. Stay single until your older and you learn a little kindness.
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (11 January 2011):
 The fact that he didn't text back should answer your question - he's thankful for getting rid of you so he didn't complicate himself with replying. His silence is his reply.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): Being direct and honest with him could solve a lot of your problems.
Apparently you like to break up and get back together again in a serial kind of way. You admittedly treated him "awfull." You admittedly looks for reasons to break up with him. And you feel the need to "test" him.
If you act this way, it's no wonder he has so little confidence in your relationship and why he "failed" your test. If someone treated me this way, I would also downplay the relationship to a stranger and entertain others.
And it seems you have no intention of being direct with him...since you believe you can break up with him and tell him you never want to see him again (via a text message) and then "fix everything and get him back."
You can't fix everything because you failed in handling this issue and your emotions. You are having a kid. Please grow up. You will have bigger problems, I promise.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (11 January 2011):
 Before thinking about how to get him back, you should think about why YOU even deserve a second chance.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (11 January 2011):
 You can't. You were a complete [explitive deleted]!!!
Quit playing games with people. I hope karma bites you for this one. Why would you even want to fix things after you went out of your way to wreak them?
Leave that poor guy alone.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (11 January 2011):
 Stop playing games with him for a start!
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