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writes:Last Week I had sex with my now ex-gf. it's been a month since she broke up, because she told me she didnt love me, but she had feelings for another guy. She gets mad when I tell her she doesn't love this dude even though she slept with me and she's always wanting to talk to me online, by text etc etc. I've still have feelings for her, but she says she doesnt share those feelings for me. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): have no more to do with her, she is just playing games, and messing with your emotions, very crual woman
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reader, Rogerramjet  +, writes (21 May 2009):
Some girls are funny like that after a breakup. They like to play games. The best thing for you is to sever all ties and keep her out of your life for a couple of months.
I had a girl who dumped me, but then was incredibly concerned that i might hate her, so every so often she would make it a point to contact me somehow.. Tell me she still wanted to be friends..She even initiated sex a couple of times out of the blue..But THEN if i ever tried acting friendly to her on my own initiative, she would freak out.
So i just cut her entirely out of my life for 4 months. Blocked her on MSN, refused to take any calls.
I think that's what you have to do.
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reader, Abrasive_Reality +, writes (21 May 2009):
Well, for one, i feel that as much as you love and care for her, you shouldn't have slept with her after the relationship was over. You may want her back, but by giving into the temptation of a sexual feeling towards her, you are not solving anything, except giving into your weakness and wanting her further more.
I think you have to believe her and what she says, if she wanted to be with you and loved you so much she could not be without you, she wouldn't be telling you those things.
You know that silly statement, "If you love something, you must let it go" ...? well I think in this case, you should really follow that statement, it will hurt like crazy, but shes obviously trying to get away from you for some reason.
Maybe she is lying, but it may be her only way to try to get some space from you. She is probably comfortable around you and may feel a sense of security which is why she can still sleep with you and still wants you around, but i think you should cut things off immediately....
She is telling you those things for a reason... I think its just time for you to love her enough that your respect what it is she is telling you & let her make her own decisions.... If you love her, you will let her go....
Good luck to you!
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reader, Kate123  +, writes (21 May 2009):
I think you should just be straight with her , tell her how you feel and what you want from her because if you don't tell her soon,she will never know how you are feeling and if she does know just try and do all the things you did when she use to love you and i know it might be hard work but that is the only way and that is my way Good Luck with it xx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 May 2009):
Well if she broke up with you then why are you still talking to her?
You need to cut contact for a while and stop being there as her little self esteem boost and object for pity sex.
She probably had sex with you because she still finds you attractive, because you went the extra mile to seduce her, and because she felt bad for rejecting you.
If you want to get happy again you have to tell her that you respect her decision and cut contact.
She will either realise she misses you too much and come and get you back. OR she won't and you can get over her with space and time.
Good Luck!! xx
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