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writes:i was in a relationship with a physco he got angry a lot, and destroyed me emotionally as well. he stopped me seeing my friends and told me who i was and wasnt allowed to see. and got rid of all my friends. i found a new guy hes amazing, i left my old boyfriend and im now happy with my new boyfriend, but last night i made the mistake of going back to ex and sleeping with him, now hes black mailing me, telling me hes going to tell my current bf, if i dont meet up with him. i have no clue what to do, i love my current boyfriend so much. i just need help. but if i tell my current bf he will dump me, and im not strong another. i know if he dumps me i will go back to the ex, and i cant let that happen to me again . :'( . please help. what do i do ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): Its fair you tell your bf. Unless you want to keep sleeping around......
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reader, dyeruz +, writes (4 March 2010):
I guess it's the pull of a bad boy, your boyfriend is so caring and sweet, yet you went back to your ex..life has consequences, and seeing you are so mind wrecked by this guy that if you split from your boyfriend you'd go back to him says maybe you're not ready to be in any relationship until you find yourself and come to terms with the way this ex treated you. Until this is resolved, you're inly going to end up hurting everybody involved and that's not fair. Confess and deal with the consequences, it may turn out your man might forgive you.
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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (2 March 2010):
Yea this is exactly what I fear might happen with me. I am seeing a girl and I am scared she may someday go back and mess around with her ex. Anyway. I guess for some reason sex with you ex is more important to you than the feelings and possible future you see with your new bf. You should sit back and decide what it is you want and def be honest with your current bf if he is being faithful to you then he deserves monoghamy in return
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather +, writes (2 March 2010):
 You love your current boyfriend so much? So much that you had sex with the ex?
You deserve all you get Miss.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 March 2010):
Well I know you've asked yourself this, but what on earth were you thinking!? That aside, because I know you've tortured yourself enough about that, you have no option but to tell your boyfriend because if you don't and this other guy does, you'll be in even more trouble. You have made a mistake, and in truth to cheat on your nice boyfriend with this ex proves you don't love your boyfriend as much as you like to think. This is something you won't be able to cover up. So it's best coming from you. You have to tell him and hope that he will forgive you. Don't cover it, because you'll be in even more trouble. But don't give into blackmail either. Then have a serious think about what you really want from your life.
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