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writes:Hey readers. I really need your help. My bestfriend introduced me to his girlfriend a year ago. I instantly found her attracive, she is so beautiful. When I began talking to her even her voice was beautiful. I have always had a crush on her but 2 days ago we went camping for my friends birthday, he passed out drunk in his tent after screaming abuse at her and telling her not to bother coming in the tent to sleep. He is a very mean drunk, he doesn't drink often but when he does he turns into a completely diferent guy. This annoyed me so much and I went to see if she was ok, she was crying and all I wanted to do was kiss away those tears, she's so sweet and caring and doesnt deserve that. She began to tell me all the problems they had been having and how she was planning on ending it with him, she told me she really cared for me and didn't want to lose me in her life when she broke up with him. I told her that would never happen. I love her so much I could feel my heart aching and I just wanted to cry with her. We spoke for hours and eventually we kissed. Her lips were so soft and I loved every minute of it. She pulled away after and said it shouldn't have happened and ran into the little showers at the camp site. I ran in after her and she turned to me her tears were streaming down her face and I couldn't help but kiss her again. We ended up having sex on the shower room floor, it was surreal, I could actually feel my love growning for her as I made love to her. I am a very experienced guy and I can honestly say I have never felt like that during sex. I absolutely am totally in love with her. The next morning she woke up on the floor next to me, kissed me and told me to call her in a couple of days. My friend called me today and told me they broke up and how happy he was that he was free, he wants me to go out with him tonight so he can try and hook up, but I want to call her and be with her tonight and always? I'm scared of how this will effect my friendship with my best mate as I know I was in the wrong, I feel extremely guilty and I dont know wether just to see her secretly for a few months then tell my friend I have been talking to her and would like his permission to date her, or to just come clean about it all? what do you guys think ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2012): (from question writer) Thank you guys, I spoke to the girl last night and we decided we wouldn't tell him about what happened but we will talk to him about how we feel. Also yesterday when I told my friend I couldn't go out, he told me he was just going to go see this girl he was F**king a few weeks ago! He cheated on my perfect angel 3 I would never do that to her, I know it is absolutely no reason to be ok with what I did but I am happy to know I am not the reason they broke up, thanks guys big help. :)
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reader, everyminute  +, writes (21 August 2012):
I dont think you should tell him, unless you want to end your friendship. You should continue to see this girl and if things progress as you wish then tell him you want to date her.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (20 August 2012):
You need to accept the possibility that, if you do take things further with this girl, your friendship with your friend may well be a casualty of that decision. You mightn’t be able to have it all. There is no point sneaking and lying for months, if you want to start seeing this girl you’d be better off telling your friend now and being totally honest about this wish, even if you spare him the pain of hearing about your betrayal. You did wrong, but telling him what you did to appease your guilty conscience could make things even worse for him. Instead tell him about how you feel now and what you want to do next. That said, if you reveal your feelings he might, out of anger, suspect that something happened whilst they were together and either you or she may let the truth out. Whatever happens, there are likely to be unpleasant consequences for some-one here, but you and the girl are both free to do as you please. Just try to handle this as decently as you can: if you have to hold your hands up to your wrong-doing, sincerely apologise. If your friend feels hurt by your wish to take things further with his ex, explain that you never meant to hurt him and how important your friendship is to you. You and she need to discuss where you go from here, if indeed you go anywhere at all, then you need to do the decent thing and be honest with your friend.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (20 August 2012):
 I think since they have broken up there is no point digging into the past and you telling him that you dated the girl,what's happened has happened,they have moved on so has your bestmate..had they still been dating I would ask you to own to your mistake and come clean..
But that's no excuse to what you did,you were wrong to have sex with your best friends girlfriend,BUT you were not the reason for their break up they have been having problems for along time,so I think you don't need to bring what happened between you two on that night to your friend..
But just tell your best mate that you'v been spending time with this girl and you are thinking of taking her out on her date..you don't need to ask permission?cuz you dint take permission when you kissed her or made love to her did you?so why act all angelic now!
Just tell him you want to take her out,and you don't want things to be awkward between you two and before he finds out from someone else you decided to tell him yourself!
Good luck
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