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female
age
41-50,
*m2011
writes:Hi everyone ,I am in a long distance relationship .we see each other often ,but money is tight .I saw him over the weekend ,and he thought i was seeing someone else and the reason was because i was happy . I was shocked when he told me and i said i wasn't . I didn't want to get angry because i came to see him for the weekend and i wanted to be happy . I'm pissed of now that he don't trust me and to think of me cheating on him ,i would never hurt him ,but now i feel hurt by him accusing me . Now i don't know what to do ,he is a great guy ,but insecure . Can anyone give me advice how to get of him not trusting me .
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 August 2012):
 IF you are doing nothing wrong then his not trusting you is his issue.
His belief that you are happy means you are seeing someone else screams self-doubt, insecurity and lack of self-esteem.
how long have you been dating?
how far apart are you?
how often do you see each other?
are you sure you want to take on an emotional basket case as an LDR?
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (20 August 2012):
 If he doesn't trust you over such an insignificant think then it's probably fair to say that he's going to always be hard work where trust is concerned.
He may have had previous experiences with other people that have damamged his ability to trust but that is neither your fault or your responsibility.
Long distance relationships require extra effort, so trying to have one with someone who is overly sensitive might prove too much in the future...
You have every right to be pissed off and he needs to know that he's on a warning not to accuse you again without any evidence or truth.
The next time you meet, tell him you were upset and how would he feel if it were you accusing him. He needs to get his emotions in check and start trusting you...and if he can't or won't, then you have every right to quit.
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