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writes:i don't know what to do. i broke up with my boyfriend a week ago and had a pretty hard time of it since. i broke up with him because he can't give me what i want right now, we have been dating for 6 months and needed him to make a commitment to us or call it off and he really just wants to continue to be casual and doesn't have the time or motivation to make me more a part of his life. so i called it off. he still wants to be friends, I would like to as well but i need to get over him first. He's been pushing me to do something with him and pretty much rushing me to get over the break up. he pissed me off yesterday by be-littleing my feelings and pretty much brushing off that i'm still feeling beat-up about the fact that he dosn't return my feelings. so my issue is that last night i sent him an email that i'm regretting now. it explained what I'm feeling and why, and at the time i thought he should know how i feel, but he hasn't replied, and it's almost been 24 hours which is so not like him. and now i don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks, you guys are totally right! i need to really accept the fact that it's over. i was still hanging on to hope that he's change his mind when i sent the email.
i'm glad i did sent the email, for myself. it made me feel better to stand up for myself and explain to him how he hurt me.
yeah, still haven't heard anything, and now not expecting to and i almost don't mind :)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 June 2010):
 He does not paricularly care about what you feel and why, - and to be honest he is not obliged to, since you have broken up and he is rapidly moving on.
You should move on too, and forget the "being friends " part for now. Most likely, it's just his excuse to turn you into a friend ...with benefits, but even if he is sincere, it's soill too early for you and it's not what you need right now.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 June 2010):
You have to accept that he is an ex. He doesn't need to reply, and realistically, you're going to find it hard to be friends. You did the right thing telling him how you feel, because he has to understand that you're not someone he can just casually use when he pleases. I think you would do better to move on from him totally. If you lose him as a friend, so be it. But don't waste time chasing him. He's an ex.
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reader, brandyy  +, writes (2 June 2010):
 I've went through this same thing about 4 months ago with my boyfriend, all in all we had been toogether almost 2 years. I sent him the same thing, he read it and didnt write back. About two days later, I saw him at a friends house, and it was just casual talk. When I brought up my feelings and the email, he blew it off and said that breaking up was "for the best" so maybe this is a similar thing to that? I definitely hope its not for your sake cause it hurt quite abit, but honestly time really did heal my wounds although it still hurt. Though if he treated you the way he did, you real should try to find a guy who would cherish you they way you should be. You'd deserve much better. Good luck hun.
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