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*lissa0490
writes: I really like this guy but we were just formally introduced a couple weeks ago. And we all know how the guy's mind works. He forgot who I was. But I've liked him for the longest. What should I do? Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, elissa0490 +, writes (13 March 2007):
elissa0490 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx you guys your advice really helped.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (8 March 2007):
It's okay to get a friend to talk on your behalf but it does show a lack of maturity from your side (unless he's immature too of course.) The best way to go about this is to have a friend that you know, and who hangs around with him to introduce you as a friend too. Talk to him, get to know him and just let him see how much fun you are. Ask him questions about himself, what he likes, his favourite band, does he like sport, what does he do to chill, things like that.
Don't just dive in there and say "I really like you" or "I would love to go out with you" as this will only make him run in the opposite direction. Gradually get to know him and have a bond grow between you. Hopefully he will want to get to know you better and eventually ask you on a date.
Eve
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (7 March 2007):
Hi,
What i was saying was if you get someone to go and ask a guy out for you it shows a lack of confidence, and alot of guys would not find this very attractive. Ok so you got scared, i know what its like to get scared over asking someone out i have been there mant times. You don't have his E mail or phone number. You would put your feelings for him in a letter.
Hope this helps
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reader, elissa0490 +, writes (7 March 2007):
elissa0490 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey kenny, Farris, and AskEve thanx for the help but there is an update. Kenny I was reading this question and I saw that you had replied to it. It was to a 10-12 year old girl. You told her to ask the guy out but not to ask a friend to do it.This is to all three of you now and other agony aunts. Well, like half a week ago I was going to tell this guy but I got scared and I asked my friend to tell him for me.Is this bad?????? I didn't know his phone #, email, and I don't have him for any of my classes. So the only he could've found out was if told him but like I said I got scared. Do you understand any of this? Please HELP.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (7 March 2007):
He obviously can't remember who you are so you need to make a bigger impact on him. Ask your friend to arrange a foursome so you can go out with him with friends around or if you prefer just get chatting to him and ask him a bit more about himself. Be confident and assertive as men like that in a woman. If he's interested then he'll build up a friendship with you and hopefully things will progress.
Eve
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reader, Farris +, writes (5 March 2007):
I agree with Kenny... Try to arrange another meeting between the two of you (With other friends if you're too shy or get embarassed), and just get to know him better. Then you can decide whether you want to date him or be with him.
Good luck!
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (5 March 2007):
you really don't know that much about this guy, as you were only formally introduced once a couple of weeks ago. your friend who introduced you, why don't you get him/her to arrange another meeting and all go out in a group together. This would be a good way to get to know him better, and you will feel more comfortable because you are in a group.
Good luck x
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