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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 3years and have now been living together for 10months as I was always away in university. Recently he told me he thinks he wants a break.. but he was quite honest in telling me that he kinda just wants to see what else is out there.. however he knows im an "amazing woman" and he admits he worries he's just going through a phase and doesnt actually want to break up permanently (likely unless he finds someone better!?). Thing is, right now were living in a teeny town with literally nothing to do and no friends or family here either... so we both have been quite bored and smothery, but we will be moving to a way better place soon- so do i pack up and tell him if he wants to test the waters that he shouldnt expect me to be waiting, or do i actually wait, given that he is unsure about his uncertainty in the first place!??Yours truly, Confused
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (9 March 2007):
 It cant help your situation living in such a small town with nothing to do for excitement that would drive anyone insane. I think you should let him go and find himself but the only danger here is that he may fall for someone else. I dont think you should sit around waiting for him as this is very unfair on you. You too should go and make new friends and you too may fall for someone else. If you are meant to be together then you will but for now you need to let him go.
Good luck
Aunty t
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reader, cd206  +, writes (6 March 2007):
 For what it's worth it sounds like he just wants to get out there and have a final fling before committing to you for good. The real question is if you're willing to let him go if it means he'll come back to you or whether you take the riskier option of telling him you want him and you're not prepared to give him the option, that it's you or nothing at all. Both of the options have the possibility of backfiring but they also have the possibility of success. What should you do? Unfortunately that;s a question only you can answer.
CD
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